For The Love Of Money Or Happiness?

Has there every been a point in your life were you were successful but not happy and vice versa?

The perception of money and happiness has been discussed, argued and debated for decades. What we desire to attain in life sometimes surpasses what ultimately makes us happy. We sometimes sacrifice our happiness for money because it is convenient and sometimes an easier decision. For the most part money rules a lot of our lives we need money for pretty much everything in life. So choosing money over happiness may seem to be the only way out.

In today’s money hungry society there is an overwhelming number of people who work the ranks of power, chase money at all costs, or forget the true meaning of happiness. This is common because we live in a society where money is supposed to give us “happiness”. Needless to say we know that’s not the case especially when we see professional athletes, actors and celebrities who have millions of dollars take their own life because they aren’t happy.

Now money does matter we need it to survive but if we get consumed with money and the chase of money it can be toxic for our life. Just this past week I heard a great quote from a mentor of who said “Money will buy you many things, but the happiness from it is only limited”. These words were profound to me because sometimes we all can get consumed with money. The stress of life can cause anyone to lose the true meaning of happiness because of bills, family obligations and life expenses.

Now this brings up the question which is more important to you money or happiness? Before you answer ask yourself what is your ultimate goal in life? Is your aim in life to become a billionaire and have to get tax right offs and an accountant on your payroll? Or are you following your dreams and passions that truly make you happy instead of going after money? There’s nothing wrong with, either, just different approaches and priorities. Comment below and tell me your answers & if you liked this post please share!

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Leaving Your Comfort Zone Behind: Change Your Life

We’ve all heard the same advice to get out of our “comfort zone” to stretch ourselves and try new things. Most people agree with this statement but what do we really know about the comfort zone besides its uncomfortable and we need to get out of it. We’re ruled by our habits. We do things the same old way because it’s comfortable. But the risk in staying firmly inside our comfort zones is that it creates psychological barriers that can lead to real limitations. There are many different scientific explanations of what exactly the comfort zone is, but simply put it is a behavioral space where activities and behaviors fit a certain routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk levels. It provides a state of mental security. You benefit in obvious ways: regular happiness, low anxiety, and reduced stress. On the other hand having a comfort zone mindset can cause complacency in many different areas of your life.

In many cases what keeps many of us from getting everything we want in life and more are the reluctance to change. A lot of times we want to minimize the stress that may be caused by breaking the norm and making changes that may be risky. Sometimes it can be justified because life is stressful enough just living our daily lives. However, we may know in our heart of hearts that the job or relationship is not right for us. We endure them because we fear what is next, or stuck in a fixated pattern based in our past experiences. Whatever it may be anyone can break out of their comfort zone and create positive change. Here are six ways you can break out of your comfort zone and into the greatness you deserve.

1. Knowing & Accepting What’s Outside of Your Comfort Zone:

Simply said what are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure. Once you accept this it is the first step to getting past this anxiety.

2. Do What Scares You Every Day:

Do something every day that scares you. This would be a powerful step this would be to make a conscious effort to take this step. It can open up all possibilities maybe new friendships or new opportunities.

3. Embrace Failure:

Many of us are so afraid of failure, that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams. Begin to treat failure as a lesson that you can learn from.  The next time you fail ask yourself questions like what did I learn from the experience? How can I take that lesson to your next venture to increase my chance of success?

4. Change Your Mindset:

This is a huge step when we change our thoughts we can improve our mindset. This takes mental stamina and discipline. A helpful way to start retraining your mind is by thinking and reading positive messages this helps to create a desire on whom you want to become and say them every day. Eventually these affirmations will become a part of your belief system.

5. Make A Bold Move Towards Your Dreams:

Sometimes we just need to put our best foot forward and take a risk with great risk there is also great reward. For example, many people dream to leave their eight to five job to pursue a hobby that has been a passion of theirs for years. They just need to figure out how to make it happen. The first step is to set reasonable time limits on yourself to reach or pursue certain goals. Once you done this you can start on the road to getting out of your comfort zone.

6. Connect/Network With Other Risk Takers:

This is an very important step if you want to learn or become better at something there is no substitute for simply knowing people who are doing what you want to do and start asking questions and emulating them.

 

Your comfort zone is neither a good or bad thing. It’s a natural state that most people trend towards. Leaving it means increased risk and anxiety, which can have positive and negative results, but don’t demonize your comfort zone as something holding you back. We all need that head-space where we’re least anxious and stressed so we can process the benefits we get when we leave it. Always remember only courageous people accomplish their dreams. This applies to big dreams, and also to simple everyday dreams. If you enjoyed this post comment below if you have stepped out of your comfort zone and what was the results. Also if you liked this post don’t forget to like and please share!

 

 

 

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Stay Focused: Working Towards Your Goals

Do you remember your new year’s resolutions you set at the beginning of this year?

We all know staying focus on our goals can be difficult after the initial excitement is gone. When we first write down our goals and dreams we are filled with joy and optimism. But when we are overwhelmed with obstacles, boredom or just lack of focus continuing going after said goal can be challenging.  Here are seven ways to stay focused on your goals.

  1. Simplify Your Goals:

Sometimes we have very in-depth goals it can become difficult to stay focus on our goals. When we have massive goals the road can be long and may be quite some time till we will see a reward for our efforts. When we take on a goal the first step we need to do is give ourselves a “pep talk”. Reassuring ourselves that we will feel rewarded at the end of our pursuit is like driving with no fuel.

  1. Value Success:

Sometimes when we are so focused on a specific goal, and don’t take the time to be thankful for all the smaller success we have on the road to our ultimate goal.

  1. Learn to Say No:

One of the major issues that many of us face while trying to make our dreams a reality is the ability to say “no” to disturbances. For example, have you ever put off working toward your goal for something else that came out of nowhere? Many times it may just be a simply text message, call, social media notification or our favorite TV show does the job of delaying us from our goals.

  1. Write Down Your Goals:

To help us focus on our goals writing them down or create a vision board will assist in training our mind to think more about our goals and actually achieving them. Also our brain thinks in terms of images so, if you choose the right pictures, it will serve as both an enjoyable and effective method to stay focused on your goals.

  1. Support System:

This is one of the most overlooked steps to focusing on our goals. When we have a support of people or one person who checks on our progress and helps us keep on track. Without a support system it can be easy to get off track and stop pursing our goal. In the case we do not have a support system we can reach out to people who are like-minded and are also on the road to greatness.

  1. Have A Positive Mindset:

Once we change our mindset from “I can’t, I won’t”. To “I can, I will” this simple change can make all the difference when pursing our goals.

  1. Enjoy The Process:

If you don’t enjoy the process, then it will get overwhelming and the likelihood is that you will quit. On the other hand, if you love the process it makes the road to achieving your goals easier.

We all have it within us to find the willpower for continued goal or dream pursuit. Think of how you learned how to drive as a teenager or young adult. Whether you experience failure or disappointment you stayed present in the moment and in your singular focus on the task at hand. You just focused on your goal in the distance, an infectious desire that garnered support and the relentless urge to get there, one step at a time.  What are your goals and what ways do stay focus on the road to success? Comment Below & if you liked the post please share!

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Should You Ever Lower Your Standards?

Having standards for our lives is a common practice in our society.  Majority of us have standards for different areas of our lives whether it is a certain neighborhood we want to live in or the amount of money we want to make. There are many different types of standards that we may have set for our lives, relationships and careers. When it comes to dating I’m sure we’ve all heard of standards and deal breakers. This brings up the question should we ever lower our standards?

Standards V.S Expectations

Many times we confuse standards and expectations when it comes to relationships. I’ve met plenty of people who say “The person I date has to have everything on my list”. The one thing about this statement is there is too much emphasis on what our “list” says. Focusing too much on a list can sometimes lead to unrealistic expectations  that can cause us to lose sight of what’s really important to us. Having standers are great for narrowing down our search when looking for someone to date, but sometimes we need to reevaluate if they are truly a standard or just an expectation.

Should You Lower Your Standards?

Often times there is a negative connotation when we think of lowering our standards.  Therefore we may feel as if we do settle for something that is less than we “want” we will be miserable and unhappy. This is true in some instances, because some of our standards are deal-breakers. Which are crucial to having a prosperous and healthy relationship.  On the hand for example I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and they stated “I’ve been dating someone for the past few months. They are a great person and we always have an amazing time together. The only problem is their not exactly my type when it comes to the looks department”.  This statement to some may seem like this person is being shallow and undervaluing the great qualities this person has. Some people may view it as you shouldn’t settle to be someone, because in the end you won’t be happy.

Final Thoughts

Everyone’s standards are different, because we have different morals, goals, expectations, experiences and background’s which shape our perception on relationships. In the end we have to know what is and isn’t acceptable for us. Would or have you ever lowered your standards? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!

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7 Quotes To Find Motivation in a World Full of Negative Images

With all the damaging and sometimes destructive messages we receive in today’s culture either from the mass media, publications, social media outlets and from social interaction. So sometimes finding motivation can be a challenge. So today we want to share seven inspiration quotes to help anyone find motivation.

  1. “The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be”.

 

  1. “Don’t judge each day by how much money you make but on the seeds, you plant for your future”.

 

  1. “Anything is possible but if we never try nothing is possible”.

 

  1. “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise”.

 

  1. “We become what we think about most of the time, and that’s the strangest secret”.

 

  1. “The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary”.

 

  1. “There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle”.

 

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Networking + Share Your Blog

I just want to take this time to thank everyone who reads, subscribers and shares my site. I appreciate all the support and encouragement.I would love to read everyone’s blog, but I don’t always get a chance to read and follow everyone’s blog.

So today I want to offer a networking opportunity and a chance for all bloggers no matter what niche or experience a chance to gain more traffic. Anyone who wants to gain free traffic can participate. All you have to is comment your blog below & I will follow every blog and actually read your content. So if you’re interested just comment your blog’s URL below. Also If you could share and re-blog this post so we can reach as many bloggers as possible!

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4 Ways To Overcome Naysayers & Doubters

No matter what your goals or ambitions whether for business, family or self-improvement. Majority of the time it always seems to be someone who has negative opinions on whatever you’re trying to do. This may be people who are close to you i.e. family or significant others.  Often times we don’t realize how naysayers can affect us in our daily lives. So today we will share 4  methods to overcome naysayers.

  1. Believe in Yourself:

Having a strong belief in yourself can help us cut out the empty noise that comes from naysayers. Once we believe in ourselves we won’t let their opinion sway our self-belief.

 

  1. Safeguard Your Dreams/Goals:

Often times when we have a dream or goal we love tell everybody, because we are excited. This is not always the best option will try to overcome naysayers. A lot of times the best choice is to keep our dreams and goals to ourselves.

 

  1. Ignore Them:

This is a very simple concept just don’t listen when people are negative or try to persuade you not to follow your dreams.

 

  1. Focus On Your Vision:

Instead of letting other people opinions create negative thoughts in your mind.  Stay focus on your vision or  goal  by starting to accept that we all fail sometimes. Success is inevitable if you keep learning, growing, and believing in yourself.

Final Thoughts 

Once we stop denying that we have naysayers in our life we can move forward towards the path of greatness. Have you experience naysayers in your life how did you handle it? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!

 

 

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Law Of Attraction: Real Or Myth?

The law of attraction is a belief based on the “like attracts like” theory. It states that if someone concentrations on negative and positive thoughts, both negative and positive results can be attained. There has been a lot of media attention to this theory of Law of Attraction. I have recently done some research on this topic so I can truly understand it. I am a believer in “our thoughts become things” so I found this theory interesting and thought-provoking. According to a lot of teachers of the Law of Attraction it’s nearly that easy. I tend to agree with this philosophy because once we change our thoughts we truly can attract positive energy in our life. I have also found a lot information about the myths about the law and how it can be misleading. So today I will share some realities and myths of the Law of Attraction.

Reality

1. The Law of Attraction is the law by which the universe responds to the thoughts and feelings that we put out into it is exactly the same for everyone. The Law of Attraction doesn’t just literally drop stuff in your lap. It brings you meetings with just the right people at the right time, brilliant ideas and coincidences. It’s your job to pay attention to those ideas, follow your hunches and recognize the coincidences.

2. Visualization is an important tool used to train yourself to create what you want. It isn’t the visualization that creates, though. You create through the vibration that you offer. The vibration you offer is determined by the thoughts you habitually think (beliefs). Visualization can help you to retrain your thoughts.

3. There is nothing you have to do, or in fact can do to make the Law of Attraction work. Just as there is nothing you have to do or can do to make the stars come out at night actually come out It just does. That’s why it’s called a law you generate your own reality. All of it. All the time. You can’t help it. You have the control to change everything you see around you, every person in your life, everything in your reality.

Myth

1. The Law Of Attraction Is ‘Magical’
With everybody’s eyes slowly being opened to the vast and limitless potential that lies in front of them, it is no wonder that for some, the law of attraction and the possibilities that it offers seem like some form of “magic”. The law of attraction isn’t a case of simply wanting something and it falling into your lap as a result of just positive thinking. Instead, it is about keeping your mind open to positivity and having faith in the universe to provide you with what you want most in life. The law of attraction is no wishing-well or form of witch craft, but alternatively, a way of opening your eyes to the very best aspects in life.

2. Teaches To Care Yourself & Nobody Else
Basically, when people begin to learn more about the law of attraction they are often left open-mouthed, jumbled or confused when they come to the realization that they are being taught to be a bit more selfish. However, if learning how to prevent the moods of others from affecting your well-being is selfish, then everybody ought to try it a little more often especially for the sake of their bodies.

3. The Law Of Attraction Is New
It is a generally held misbelief that the law of attraction is some new self-help effort to have only recently been bought to our attention. However, this couldn’t be any further from the truth it’s been around since the beginning of time. It can be argued that it’s one of the oldest law in the Universe.

The Law of Attraction plays a very important role in manifesting desires, but it is only one part of the thought manifestation process. If you understand that everything existing in the material or external world is made of only energy, you may realize that focusing your energy or thought toward something you desire can help manifest it into reality. Comment below & if you like this post please share!

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Turning Dreams Into Reality

We all know that having a dream or goal for our life is the easy part but turning that dream into a reality is easier said than done. There will always be obstacles and inconveniences along the way that can potential hold you back.  These setbacks can easily convince anyone that they are not moving in the right direction and are simply making a mistake following their dream.  Contrary to popular belief there is no “secret” to realizing and achieving your dreams. It’s not a magic formula that you can get that magically works and the next thing you know your dreams become a reality. It takes more than a few ideas, hopes and little to no effort to go from a just a dream to reality. It’s important to clearly state and write down your dreams or goals this is a vital step. Then create a plan and hold your self accountable for deadlines you have given yourself.

Visualizing Your Dreams

There are many articles, blogs and motivational videos that discus the inherent power of our thoughts can manifest into our deepest desires.  Simply put visualizing means having a vivid and compelling image in your mind about the objects of your desire. This is an important step to making our dreams a reality, because if we don’t believe in ourselves and speak, think and believe it no one else will. I always quote a mentor of mind he always says “Our thoughts become reality”.  Simply said, our mind naturally manifests things into existence if we truly believe in them.  Visualization is one of the best ways to make your dreams come to fruition.

 

No excuses

It is easy to make excuses i.e. I don’t have enough time, resources, connections, money etc. etc. There are numerous excuses one can make for themselves ,but if you really want to make your dreams a reality not just thoughts and hopes in your head.  You cannot make excuses because we all have them I used to make excuses all the time “I’m too young, I don’t have enough money, I don’t come from a background of people who follow their dreams, I don’t have enough time”.  All the excuses I made I was focused on what I didn’t have and not what I did have.  Which are hard work and the dedication to make anything possible even past my wildest dreams.  So for those who sit around making excuses about how they can’t reach their dream or goal. I want you to ask yourself a question is your excuse really worth going through a life time of regret wishing you would have followed your dream?

Process over Outcome

When you trust the plan choosing process over outcome is easy.  If you are preoccupy with the outcome then the failures can be painful and lead to the feeling of being inadequate and incompetent. This can lead to discouragement and eventually giving up on your dream. However focusing on the process allows you to view setbacks or failures as opportune to learn and improve.  It may sound cliché but it is true failure can become our biggest teachers. I remember when I first started writing there were countless number of people would say I could never be a writer and my dreams were silly and my writing style was filled with misspellings, grammar mistake’s  and grammatical errors. Those negative comments just fueled my work ethic and made me work harder than I ever did before to improve my skills and to prove them wrong.

Do you have a dream? Does your imagination run riot at the thought reaching your dreams? Do you fantasize about how your life would be if you make your dreams a reality? Often people avoid following a specific dream because it will takes years to achieve what they want. I want to encourage anybody reading this follow their dreams and passions. Whatever your vision, there’s no time like the present to put your big ideas into action. Comment below what your dream is & if you like this post please share!

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Who Are You Spending Time With?

A couple of weeks ago I had a discussion with a friend of mine about what it takes to achieve our goals in life. The main conclusion of this conversation is that a large amount of how successful we are in life comes down to the people we spend our time with. Strange as it may sound no matter how independent or self-efficient we are greatly influenced by those closest to us.

Impact People Have on Us

Many of us have all type of relationships some platonic, significant other, co-workers, or family members. However sometimes we don’t realize the power they can have on our lives. If you want to know where your life is heading look at your friends. If your friends are going places, have a spirit of excellence, kind, generous, courteous, and pursuit of success then those qualities are going to rub off on you.

The Significance ‘The Wrong People’ Can Have

Associating with the wrong people can affect our lives in a major way. The wrong people can negatively influence, discourage and mislead us just because they might not have our best interest at heart. The great thing is there are a bunch of amazing, positive, goal oriented people just waiting to help improve and shape our life in a positive direction. But here’s the key: If you’re spending time with the wrong people, you’ll never meet the right ones. A quote that always resonates with me is “You can’t hang out with chickens and expect to soar with eagles”. This simply means that if you want to reach your already predestined greatness hanging with people that aren’t going any place will only drag you down.

Who Are You Spending Time With?

Unsuccessful people find other unsuccessful people in other words birds of a feather flock together. Making sure the people closest to you are heading towards success is crucial. My challenge is simple no matter how smart, talented, how many skills you have acquired, where you are from or your family background. All that matters is where you want to be in life and the people you surround yourself with.  An additional thought, you shouldn’t spend a lot of time with people that are always negative, people that are constantly discouraged, you have to keep them cheered up, keep helping them fix their problems Now, I am huge component of helping other people I have dedicated my whole life to do so. But if you are constantly giving to a relationship or friendship, and aren’t receiving anything in return you might have to reconsider if that person is someone you should be spending your time with.

Final Thoughts

If we are on the road to success we must surround ourselves with the ‘right people’. The key that most all successful people point to is “when I changed my friends and the people I surround myself with my whole life completely changed”. Sometimes we tend to pick up on habits of our friends without even noticing it. We all have friendships that started off great then became toxic and it can be difficult to end a relationship or friendships after you have invested a lot of time, effort and energy. Have you ever had friends or family who weren’t right for you at that moment in your life? Also have you found those great people in your life who influence and help improve your life? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!

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