Finding Yourself V.S Creating Yourself

For many years the concept of finding yourself versus creating yourself has been a topic of discussion.  This concept comes from a famous quote by author George Bernard Shaw “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating you”.

Finding Yourself

Many times when the topic of finding yourself is usually referenced to a “young person” just beginning their life’s journey to find their purpose, or when an older person puns about what their plans are once they “grow up.” Finding yourself suggests you are lost, confused or in a chaotic state. Often times we let the world or other influences dictate our path. This can become problematic when most of the narrative about finding yourself turns negative once we reach a certain age. This happens when society looks at us as a failure or as if we have underachieved in our lives.

Creating Yourself

Instead, many may argue that we should never “find ourselves” but we should always be creating ourselves. Most aficionados of this topic suggest that we can never create ourselves until we start to experiment uncharted territory, take risk and step out of our comfort-zone. Once we stop our “guided tours”, and start dictating where are life is headed. Which may truly help us “create” ourselves versus finding ourselves. Often times we ignore our inner thoughts to do something unlike the norm and go in a way that our heart leads us to follow our dreams and desires rather than take the safe route or easier road. These moments usually happen when we are at a crossroad or tough decisions that occur in our lives. Whatever choice we make can have a huge impact on our life.

Finding Yourself V.S Creating Yourself

When we were kids we instinctively leaned in the direction of creation. We made mud pies, finger painting and creating a whole plot-line story to play while we explored outside. We were chronicling our own course, creating something new, and finding out more about ourselves without even realizing it. This is often not the case once we reach adulthood because we have factors such as bills, life choices, families, fear of failure and different factors that don’t allow us the options to “go in the world and explore”.

Final Thoughts

It’s not easy and it’s not comfortable to create or find ourselves. Either one has it challenges and downsides but in the end it is our life and our decision. Many times we let what other people’s think change or alter what we really want to do in our life. We have decided what our path we will be and what journey we will take to achieve this. So do you spend your time trying to create yourself or find yourself? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!


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Life’s Crossroads

Everyone faces some type of “crossroad” in their life. Facing a crossroad can be very overwhelming and can cause anxiety. One of the most complicated tasks any of us will face in life is the concept of making the right decision. Every few seconds we have the opportunity to change our lives, our family lives, our careers and our well-being. By having this seemingly great opportunity to affect our lives in many different aspects can seem very promising. On the other hand it can be an enormous weight on our shoulders, because our lives and our families can be forever changed based on the decisions we make when we face a crossroad.

The small decisions are simple. You may not even notice you are making them, for example if you’re hungry you might stop at a local fast-food restaurant to grab a bite to eat. This act is probably a regular occurrence for many of us and does not require much thought. Our brain has an efficient way of going into auto-pilot on tasks we deem to be insufficient.  On the contrary “crossroads” are the decisions that you can’t go into auto-pilot with that may require deep thought and detailed analysis. When you don’t know how the outcome will affect you and making such a large decision based on your gut or intuition may be the only option. These decisions are usually where the only help others can give you is common sense like “Do whatever makes you happy”. Attempting to control, manipulate or force things to happen is a typical response to the fear that comes with change. Some of us are so fearful of change that we refuse to make a change without understanding that even if we choose not to make a decision or take action, this in and of itself is a choice.

This can become problematic because life is all about changes and moving forward. We all know, deep within ourselves, what we need to do what we know during times of change or crossroads we may face. We can learn to access and trust our innate wisdom; it is personal and always available. Through this, we will know how to adjust our course, move toward our personal destiny. When we don’t follow our inner guidance, we feel a loss of power and energy.Life’s crossroads create opportunity for us to choose between different options, and when we see someone embracing the moment when choices are decided upon, it can be awe-inspiring. A crossroads is about change. Choices must be made not just when things are not working out as we had planned, but also during positive moments when we must choose to continue the course or veer off into something new. When we experience an ending relationship, a change in careers, political upheavals, or challenges with our health, the crossroads we find

Have you ever found yourself in a position where all you have worked toward is right in front of you, but instead of a simple black and white decision you were presented with a handful of options? Comment below how you made your decision and what was the outcome.




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For The Love Of Money Or Happiness?

Has there every been a point in your life were you were successful but not happy and vice versa?

The perception of money and happiness has been discussed, argued and debated for decades. What we desire to attain in life sometimes surpasses what ultimately makes us happy. We sometimes sacrifice our happiness for money because it is convenient and sometimes an easier decision. For the most part money rules a lot of our lives we need money for pretty much everything in life. So choosing money over happiness may seem to be the only way out.

In today’s money hungry society there is an overwhelming number of people who work the ranks of power, chase money at all costs, or forget the true meaning of happiness. This is common because we live in a society where money is supposed to give us “happiness”. Needless to say we know that’s not the case especially when we see professional athletes, actors and celebrities who have millions of dollars take their own life because they aren’t happy.

Now money does matter we need it to survive but if we get consumed with money and the chase of money it can be toxic for our life. Just this past week I heard a great quote from a mentor of who said “Money will buy you many things, but the happiness from it is only limited”. These words were profound to me because sometimes we all can get consumed with money. The stress of life can cause anyone to lose the true meaning of happiness because of bills, family obligations and life expenses.

Now this brings up the question which is more important to you money or happiness? Before you answer ask yourself what is your ultimate goal in life? Is your aim in life to become a billionaire and have to get tax right offs and an accountant on your payroll? Or are you following your dreams and passions that truly make you happy instead of going after money? There’s nothing wrong with, either, just different approaches and priorities. Comment below and tell me your answers & if you liked this post please share!



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Never Stop Learning: The Power of Knowledge

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

Learning is an essential part of being successful in life. You can ask anyone who has attained any level of success or is actively working towards it. They will tell you that learning is a never ending process that will never end.  Having an open mind and willing to learn can open up many opportunities that might not have been foreseen without the willingness to continue learning. I’m often reminded by the quote “Once we stop learning we stop living”.

Lifelong learning is the first step in becoming an outstanding performer.  In today’s fast paced world, if we don’t continue learning and stand still we’re falling behind.  So today I will share a few reasons why learning is essential to living a successful and prosperous life.


  1. Knowledge is Power:

This might sound cliché but it is absolutely true when we have knowledge, we have the power to achieve anything we put our minds to. One of the most crucial reasons to learn something new is that you gain power when you do.


  1. Reach our Maximum Potential:

Without learning we can limit ourselves greatly which can potentially hold us back in the long-run. Once we are not content with what we already know and attempt to deepen our knowledge base. There is no limit on where and what we can do in life.


  1. Improve our Well-Being/Life:

Knowledge will help you feel more at peace with yourself. The more we know the more we can understand then the more we can achieve. Additionally, it will allow us to have a better life, because as a great philosopher once said “Life without knowledge is like a cup without any water its just empty”.


  1. Reduce Stress:

Many of us have high stress due to bills, life’s obstacles, monetary issues etc. One of the great thing about learning it can be fun and exciting. Unlike when we were in school and we had mandatory books and information we had to learn. Now we can learm about any and everything that we actually have an interest in.


  1. Rediscover Ourselves:

Often times we give up on something that we were once interested in and enthused about. After we start to learn again we rediscover things that we once love.

Final Thoughts

With the entire world of knowledge just a few mouse-clicks away, it has never been easier than it is right now to learn something new and unexpected every day. I try to read at least ten to fifteen articles a day to always expand my knowledge base. What are some ways you continue to learn? Comment below.


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Cut Out The Empty Noise: Focus On Yourself

Often times in life we go through unforeseen paths, crossroads and adjustment periods where we can get bogged down and confused on where our life is headed. This can be caused by countless number of things i.e. friends, family, career decisions or maybe even crossroads that come in our life. Focusing on ourselves can be difficult at times when we are going through life obstacles.

First Things First: Time Management

Lets, think about how many hours we spend online every day. There’s a host of ways that we can spend our time online i.e. Social media, YouTube, online magazines/articles, shopping and numerous other things that can distract us. Then we have to take some time to think about does any of these sites add any value to our lives. If not we should limit some of our time spent on these fun but sometimes distracting activities. This can benefit us in the long run by using our time more wisely on these that can improve or enhance our lives.

Plan Your ‘Perfect Day’

When you have a day that you don’t have anything planned ahead of time. Design your perfect day from what you will do when you wake up in the morning. You can choose anything you want there’s no limit you can exercise, relax all day, start working on that business idea you’ve always had or even educate yourself by reading a book you seem to never have the time to crack open. Many times we cannot take a whole day to just do whatever we want. So often times we have to find time to do the things we really want to do. One of the easiest things to cut back on is the time we spend watching TV, YouTube videos or on social media.

Final Thoughts

Once we cut out the empty noise in our lives we make time to make our goals, dreams or passions a reality. Stick to your guns and don’t fall victim to the “empty noise” in life. Do you have trouble finding free time to do things you enjoy most? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!


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Take The Next Step: Journey To Success

We all make decisions that affect our lives every day. Rather its where to live, what career path we want to take, who we spend our time with and something as simple as what food to buy from the grocery store.  Often times we base our choices on temporary gratification that might be right choice for the moment but might not give us that long lasting happiness we all want.

To achieve any type of success you must start from the beginning just like when you first started school and you went to pre-k. Success is not an isolated event it’s a process that happens over time.  No matter if you want to start a new business, new workout plan or you may just have a new idea or path you want to purse. The journey to success is a process of working through each phase to arrive at the next one with each phase encouraging and inspiring you to keep moving forward.

Frequently the path to move closer towards success is simple taking the next logical step. It can be easy to get caught up in making elaborate plans and searching for instantaneous success. This approach often times results in lack of motivation and a lot of procrastination with very little success. Majority of the time success comes over time with a lot of hard work, sacrifice and dedication. Without these three things finding any type of success will be difficult.

Here are five tips that can help you take the first step to success:

  1. Determine What Success Means To You:

Think deeper about the interview question we all have gotten countless numbers of times.  Determining what success is to can help you find the best path to achieve the success you are looking for.

  1. Step & Plan Towards:

After you decide what you want to achieve you have to take that first step to and step towards your goal. When you are starting in a new endeavor, it can be easy to think you know more than you actually do. This is why sometimes are plans collapse on execution. In our mind they held up, but when applied it to the rigors of reality they crumble. Taking the next step doesn’t have this problem. You learn, test and improve in the real world.

  1. Conquer Fear:

Taking the first steps to you accomplish your goal fear can play a major factor in doing so. It can take over your mind and make anyone doubt if they can reach the level of success they want. Once you get past this fear and self-doubt you can accomplish anything you want.

  1. Take Action:

To succeed you have to start. List the action steps you need to take to get to where you want to go, to do what you want to do. Will these steps all be the right ones? Maybe and maybe not. But you won’t know for sure until you start moving forward.

  1. Follow Your Heart:

No matter what you want to accomplish in life anything is possible if you are truly passionate about it. Don’t let naysayers tell you not do pursue wants in truly in your heart. Go after whatever it is and don’t look back.

The first step towards achieving any type of success can be difficult you will probably experience adversity in the beginning. Which in some cases can be discouraging but I want encourage everyone reading this that anything is possible. You can literally do anything you set your mind to do.  If you are truly passionate about your goal then don’t anyone or anything stop you from attaining it.In the comments below tell me what goal have you set and have you taken the first step towards it? If you liked this post don’t forget to share!

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10 Inspirational Quotes That Will Change Your Life

Today I will share ten motivational quotes that I believe can inspire anyone and give anyone the strength to change their life. We hope you enjoy these inspirational life quotes today. Refer to these daily so that you get your mind in the right place to be the most effective version of yourself possible. Please don’t forget to share these with your friends, family and followers to brighten their day and inspire them to live a better life.



  1. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs.  Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that.  Because what the world needs are people who have come alive.”


  1. “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.


  1. “It’s hard to wait around for something you know might never happen; but it’s harder to give up when you know it’s everything you want.”


  1. “Good things come to those who wait… greater things come to those who get off their butt and do anything to make it happen.”


  1. “Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. It is delay, not defeat. “It is a temporary detour, not a dead-end street.”


  1. “It’s never too late to change your life, never too late to be happy.”


  1. “If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.”


  1. “We learn something from everyone who passes through our lives. Some lessons are painful, some are painless but, all are priceless.”


  1. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”


  1. “No one is going to hand me success. I must go out & get it myself. That’s why I’m here. To dominate. To conquer. Both the world, and myself.”





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Love is Blind?

“Love is blind… we all have been played once”

This quote was written by a great philosopher that stated that love is blinding, because it’s hard to see clearly when you’re in love. Many times love is seen as a powerful pleasure or deep pain depending on what side we fall on can change our perception of love.  Love can give us the feeling that even money cannot buy or cause us pain that can seem never ending.  No matter our age or experience love is always a topic that we all are still trying understand and figure out.

‘Love is Blind’

Majority of the time when someone says love is blind they usually mean when we are in midst of deep love and think everything our partner does is right. Many times we tend to be blinded to the behavior or negative traits that differ from our idealized image of the person we are involved with. We often love the idealized object rather than the real one. Are we then blind when we fall in love and when we maintain it?

Clear Eyes

In a large number of cases we tend to fall in love with our ideal version of our partner. Instead of what they really are because often we tend to be in love with idea of being in love. This can cause us not to have clear eyes when it comes to the validity of our relationship. Therefore these illusions are in fact a major part in our view of love.


The complex nature of love and the fact that lovers are often unwilling to face reality, self-deception and mistakes are likely to occur. Have you ever been blinded by love unrelenting light? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!


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What are You Willing to Exchange for Success?

Most of us desire success in every aspect of our lives. Whether it’s in our family life, career, business venture or just a goal we want to accomplish. However as we all know being “successful” or great at something takes a lot of sacrifices and dedication.  A famous quote that was coined by Eric Thomas “You have to want to be successful as bad as you want to breathe”. This concept is easy to say but sometimes difficult to implement.

What are you Willing to Give Up?

Many times we have huge dreams, aspirations and goals but are not always willing to make the necessary sacrifices. Majority of us want to succeed but for those of us who have tried and failed in the past success might seem unattainable. Often times we begin to ask ourselves questions like “Why are other people achieving success and I continue to fail”. There can be many answers to this question, but one that I have experience during my own journey to success is mindset. This might seem like a simply and basic concept but without a mindset set towards greatness it will be hard to succeed.

Changing our Mindset

Changing our mindset is simply deciding what we’re willing to give up or sacrifice, to achieve the success we desire.  Once we adopt a mindset that we are willing to do anything to attain success. To attain something we believe is of greater value, we have to alter our mindset to think and operate at a greater level. There’s a choice we all have to make it may be hanging out with friends who are negative and always try to drag us down with their negative thoughts. We may have to give up social media or TV to have more time to work towards our goals. We might have to give up sleep to stay up and master our craft. Whatever it may be once we decided to give it up we will be one step closer to our predestined success.

Final Thoughts

The major difference between mediocrity and attaining our fullest potential is our choices. The choices we make when we are at the crossroads of life can be life changing. At any major turning point in our life we may be required to make decisions that will determine how our futures turn out. However, there’s one thing you need to know if you want to achieve success and personal growth. It has nothing to do with the education you may need, the skills you must learn or the resources you have to pull through. The main question we have to ask ourselves is what are we willing to give up to be successful? Comment below & if you liked this post please share!


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Realistic Thinking: Change Your Mindset

We’ve all have had conversations with ourselves about if our dreams are realistic or are we somewhere in the clouds thinking we can ever achieve them. This is usually when what I like to call the “maybe thoughts” creep into our mind. Then we start thinking things like “maybe I should have a backup plan because you never know what could happen”. This mindset and thought process has plagued many of us on our road to success. Many times we hinder our own success by simply thinking “realistic”. In many cases our family, friends or significant others reinforce this outlook that we need to be realistic about our goals and dreams. Most of the time their intention is not to discourage us from going after are goals but that they want you to have a concrete or safe plan. This advice can cause self-doubt and be very detrimental to our already predestined success.

Importance of Changing Our Thought Process

Changing our mindset is one first steps to accomplish whatever we set out to do. Majority of people know that going after your dreams can be overwhelming. Many of us know or have heard of someone who went after their dreams and it didn’t come true. The blatant truth is most people who have a goal that they set for themselves never achieve it. I have read many different articles, books and blog post that have stated 92% to 95% of our goals and dreams don’t come true. With so high stats it must be some missing ingredient that a lot of us don’t have. After some research I found an overwhelming majority of people who have reach their goals all agree on one thing “when my mindset changed everything changed”. Simply meaning that once they changed their thought process it made it easier to take the other necessary steps to achieve their dreams. A very successful entrepreneur once told “Before I accomplished anything I told myself I want this so bad that I’m willing to sleep in my car and get a gym membership and take my showers there until I’m successful”. His mindset was by any means necessary he was going to accomplish his goals. Now many of us don’t have to take our mindset to that extreme level unless we have extreme dreams.

No Limit to Success

Many people limit their own success by thinking what they can’t do and not what they can do. The power in our thoughts is more powerful than some of us believe. Thinking positive thoughts can change your whole outlook on life. Being realistic usually holds us back from our true potential and leads us to mediocrity. Making a practical choice is sometimes the better option for a lot of us, because we don’t truly believe in ourselves. Once we start to trust and believe in ourselves anything is achievable no matter what thinking realistic or in similar terms doubting ourselves really has no use in our lives if we want success.  Defining success is an important step towards this mindset shift many of us have different views on what that truly is as we found out on “How Do You Define Success”. After I wrote that article I started to ponder my true definition of success and I came up with “once you figure out your purpose in life is when you can truly find success”. Also I found that no matter your definition of success or the goal you want to achieve the underlying factor is your mindset. Once we change it for the better everything else will fall into place with unwavering hard work and dedication.

Have you had to change your mindset or thought process to achieve your goals in life? Comment Below & if you liked this post please share!




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