Social norms for dating and relationships have changed from one generation to the next. About fifty odd years ago there was a time when young men and woman wouldn’t even speak to one another unless they had been formally introduced. Obviously this practice would seem silly into day’s society. On the other hand, some would look at today’s dating landscape as problematic, non-committal and countless number of “situationships” (A relationship that has no label on it like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship) instead of committed relationships. Also one major difference in dating in the 21st century is where we meet people. Nowadays many relationships are formed online either through social media platforms or dating sites. Before the internet this was on heard to meet someone without meeting them in person first. Unless the occasionally bind date which was usually picked by a trusted family member or close friend. This brings up the topic what’s the difference between dating and courting?
What is Courtship?
There are many definitions out there to define courtship but simply put it is a relationship between a man and woman in which they seek to determine if it God’s plan for them to marry each other. Under this form of dating courtship was viewed as the better choice to avoid temptations and abstain from sex until marriage. The train of thought throughout a courtship would be the “courting to marry philosophy”. Where the mindset was to court/date someone for no longer than two years and the marriage was the next step. Courtship was deemed to be better option rather than casual dating, because the idea was not to give away your heart to an array of people.
What is Dating?
Dating itself can be extremely perplexing, much less, defining what it actually is. Simply put, dating is the early stages of getting to know someone where it could potentially lead to a relationship, but is not a guarantee. Dating is usually deemed more exciting than courting, because often times we are dating more than one person at a time. Many may argue that dating is better than courting since you can get known different people to figure out what you’re looking for in a partner. Also as many dating experts have stated that dating is numbers game. The more we date the better chances it is that will find the right person to marry.
The Difference Between Dating & Courtship
The difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with someone you are interested in. For example, in a courtship the goal is marriage dating not so much. In many cases people date just for fun, sex, human interaction and just to see what’s out there. This mindset differs from courting where in the first sign of mutual interest there is a focus on marriage being the final destination. Also another difference is the maturity and readiness for marriage are not considerations in the decision to date. Instead, the decision to date is usually based on the enjoyment of dating with the goal of having good time.
In the current dating scene you usually hide all your faults to give a false impression about yourself, in order to keep your partner liking you. Recreational dating is about self-gratification — you date to satisfy your own needs. In the end we all have to be honest with ourselves first before we decide to start dating or a courtship.
Which do you prefer dating or courtship? Comment Below
Stay Connected with Jay Colby
Facebook Page: Jay Colby
Instagram: Jay Colby
Twitter: The Jay Colby Show
Copyright ©2016 Jay Colby All Rights Reserved.