Being our true self can be overwhelming at times in a society that is often overly judgmental. For many of us we’re taught that certain behaviors and ways are the best way of doing things, and expected for us to do. Therefore, when we don’t live up to these expectations, we might be judged, ashamed or criticized for our actions. This causes us to learn to behave and act as we’re “supposed to” and we hide our true self and wear an invisible mask to be expected. Essentially, we learn what it takes to protect ourselves from the hurt and pain that can be caused by being an authentic and true to ourselves. This is such a common occurrence that many times we don’t even realize that we have been suppressing our identity.
Take off the Mask
Hiding behind societal norms can follow us as we transition into adulthood and navigate through life. However, for some of us it comes to a point where we are fed up of being unhappy and trying live up to the expectation that society or our family has for us. We decide at this moment to start being our true-self and take off the mask. This sudden change can be caused by what I like to call a “game changer”. Simply put, a game changer is when a significant event happens in our life that changes our life’s trajectory. When this happens it usually caused us to put our life in perspective and realize that it’s okay to be ourselves and live our life the way we see fit.
Here are three methods to help anyone identify your true self and help make the transition to live life as your true-self.
- Give Yourself the Freedom to be You:
Giving yourself the freedom to be you by letting go of comparisons, labels, status, criticisms, cynicism, etc., will empower who you are within and give you the courage to actualize. It will also allow you to accept your uniqueness and individuality, regardless of whether or not you have any kind of support when becoming who you know you really are.
- Make Changes:
Trusting yourself is a necessity in becoming your true-self. There will be moments when we’re standing out in a crowd or going against the norm, because we might be following our dreams. In those moments, trusting ourselves will give us the willpower and the courage, along with anything else you might need, to continue pursuing what is in our heart.
- Set Yourself Up for Success:
Setting yourself up for success and approaching this transition, and everything else you might come across in life, with a successful outlook will set you up for exactly that. It will help us adapt an optimistic attitude and help you become a person who always finds a solution instead of a person who makes excuses. Expecting success also allows you to follow your happiness, which is fully aligned with your true self. And when you are aligned with your true self, you naturally do what you need to, to live as your true self.
With new year now upon us we often take a longer look at our life and begin to question who we really are and what we want to do with our lives going forward. I want to encourage everyone who is reading this to take a step back from everything i.e. family, friends, job, relationships and ask yourself “who am I”?
Have you ever felt that you don’t know who you are?
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