Ask Jay #5 – How Long Does The Grind Really Take?


Hello Jay I wanted your advice about something that has been stressing me out lately.  I’ve been trying to make some major changes in my life over the past few years.  I’ve started the journey of changing my profession to my passion.  My passion is fashion untimely I want to become a fashion journalist/ blogger.  But my issue is how long it’s actually taking me to make this a reality I’ve been working hard especially lately plus I haven’t really seen much result.  Can you give me any suggestions or advice on how to stay focus on my goals.

– Anonymous


This was an interesting question that I find many people who are going after their dreams have trouble with. The difficult nature of making changes means that you will likely be putting in effort that will take you far beyond the point at which it is inspiring or fun. This stage is what I like to call “The Grind”, which starts when actions necessary to produce meaningful change become stressful, exhausting ,and tedious. Simply put if we really want something we have to ask ourselves two key questions. One “how bad do we want it” two “What are we willing to exchange for success”. Once we ask ourselves these questions can determine if we’re really focused and want to pursue our dreams.  This stage can last awhile until we can truly reach our end goal sometimes it can take years to finally reach them. One suggestion that I tell anyone who are chasing their dreams is to “stay patient and consistent”.  We need patience because going through this stage can take a toll on our mind. Being consistent and adopting a never give up mantra is imperative to getting through the grind stage. The Grind may not feel very good, but what does feel good is seeing your efforts pay off with the changes you want.

“You neither love nor hate this process simply accept it as part of the deal in striving toward a better you”

What are your thoughts have you been in this situation before? Comment below

Submit questions here!

Copyright ©2016 Jay Colby All Rights Reserved.


About Jay Colby

Some would categorize me as an entrepreneur, life coach, son, friend and all of the above. I’m just another person trying to find my way in this world. Until recently, I was unsure what my path in this life would consist of. Like many others I was between I know what I want to do but not sure if that’s what I’m supposed to do. I am currently finishing my degree in something that has nothing to do with becoming a writer or entrepreneur so automatically it qualifies me to become one right! Follow me as I go through this journey called life to impact and encourage one person at a time.
This entry was posted in Ask Jay, Passion, Success and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

22 Responses to Ask Jay #5 – How Long Does The Grind Really Take?

  1. Great post. My two cents . . . until you make it!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Brenda says:

    A great post! It takes time and a lot of effort to see the fruits of our labor. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  3. angyjenks says:

    If I can just impact someone’s life.. I think I will have accomplished my goal.. I know I am called to help heal the broken hearted like me.. it’s just figuring out how to do it.. but I do think by blogging I’m off to a good start..

    Liked by 1 person

  4. That was a great question Jay and you answered it so well. So true about staying focused and don’t let others steal your dreams.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. mcneilljared says:

    Going through something similar. Thank you for the advice. Very much needed.

    Liked by 1 person

  6. rothpoetry says:

    Unless you are fortunate enough to be in a job you love, the grind takes a lifetime. It comes and goes and takes a lot of persistence. I agree with you if you want something you have to work for it. Don’t expect things to happen overnight!

    Liked by 1 person

  7. Well said jay. It’s really a big grind. It was never meant to be easy. Once someone decided to do it, he should be ready for the consequences.

    Liked by 2 people

  8. ninaperdido says:

    I am in this situation currently. Its tedious. Nice post Jay, they help me not to feel so alone.

    Liked by 1 person

  9. Laura says:

    Good question with a great answer. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  10. Light Ministry Blog says:

    Some very good thoughts to share in addressing this person’s question. I was particularly struck by your remark, which I find so true in the Christian world… “One “how bad do we want it” two “What are we willing to exchange for success”.”

    It occurred to me that this is just as true in chasing our earthly dreams as it is in obtaining spiritual goals. We must be willing to take up God’s will before our own in order to achieve success. Is this something we are willing to do? It’s the question of a lifetime for those interested…

    A very good post!


    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s