Ask Jay #11 – Fear, Doubt & Regret

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Hello Jay I’m in need of your help lately I’ve be thinking about making a career change, but I’m nervous about making the move. The career I want to change to I’ve been doing as a side job for the past two years. I’m not to sure if I should do this as a career, because it doesn’t make a lot of money unless you’re at the top of the field. The current job I have makes pretty good money and provides me with a lot of opportunities. The only problem is I absolutely hate my job and I dread going to work every morning. I know I should go after my dreams while am still young before I turn 30 next year. But I’m not sure how to get past this doubt I have in my mind. Can you please help!!!!

– Anonymous


This is a common problem that many of us go through in life. Whether it’s starting a new career, meeting someone new or just making a decision that we know will effect our life in a major way. Learning to get passed our fear and doubt which can turn into regret can be a difficult task to overcome. Here are three methods you can use to get passed doubt & fear.

  1. Recognize That You have Self-Doubt or Fear

You can’t get rid of something until you recognize that it’s there. By recognizing that self-doubt or fear is holding you back you’re one step closer to rediscovering your self-confidence.

  1. Don’t Listen To The Doubt

Often times the doubt in our mind stems from what our family, friends or society thinks of us. This is when we have to cut out the negative noise and focus on ourselves. A method that I’ve found helpful in doing this is reading positive messages daily. Rather it’s a quote, blog post, article or book putting positive thoughts in our mind. Helps us to train our thought-process to believe that we can achieve anything we want.

  1. Build Your Confidence

Although achieving your dream will bring up stress, fear, doubt, this experience is precisely what is necessary for a confidence breakthrough to occur. It is not enough to make self-supporting choices when your journey is easy, you have to do it when it’s hardest to do so.

What are your thoughts how do you overcome fear & self-doubt?

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Some would categorize me as an entrepreneur, life coach, son, friend and all of the above. I’m just another person trying to find my way in this world. Until recently, I was unsure what my path in this life would consist of. Like many others I was between I know what I want to do but not sure if that’s what I’m supposed to do. I am currently finishing my degree in something that has nothing to do with becoming a writer or entrepreneur so automatically it qualifies me to become one right! Follow me as I go through this journey called life to impact and encourage one person at a time.
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10 Responses to Ask Jay #11 – Fear, Doubt & Regret

  1. Light Ministry Blog says:

    I tried many jobs before settling into one in my early 30’s. I may have moved on from some things I shouldn’t have. But I wanted to find the “perfect” thing to do with my life. We can dream, and we can strive to improve. Just be sure you know what you have before you quit it for something else. That’s advise I can now give to others from my own experience.


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  2. Joe says:

    Anonymous, I am currently in a state of flux with my life that is quite far reaching. I have spent the last 20 years in a career field that many want in and I have been incredibly successful in what I have done. It drove me to absolute madness, to the point of self destruction. Today my goal is simple, I want to find something that I know I will wake up and be happy doing 5 years from now. Adjusting my lifestyle to fit that particular something is difficult yes, but throwing away my ability to enjoy anything in the name of a higher wage or better image is worse.

    Doubt is a natural response to make you slow down and consider your actions, this is not a negative at all. I would suggest stepping back for a day with no thoughts of either position, distract yourself with something entirely disconnected. Upon your return before you look back at the positions decide for yourself what you want in the mid future (think no further than 5 years, I recommend 2). With that answer you will be able to make a decision regardless of doubt. Remember no mistake is big enough to truly bring you down, mistakes are merely learning opportunities brought on by a negative consequence. Wouldn’t you rather go from negative to positive?

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  3. Dave says:

    First class advice !

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  4. msw blog says:

    Great advice. I would say if anonymous saving account can cover his or her living expenses for six months go after the dream …

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  5. No question… I was looking for a comment section in “About Jay”. Just wanted to say, how much I like your website/blog. Great information and I like the positivity. Keep Inspiring and motivating. God bless you!!

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