Surround Yourself With People: Who Want To See You Win

People have a huge impact on our lives we interact with people on a daily basis. Whether we’re around our family, friends, co-workers or just people we see at the grocery store. People have an impact on our lives combined with the images we see in the media. Who we spend our time with and what messages we allow to enter our minds is vital to taping into our predestined success.

Everyone we spend our time with doesn’t have our best interest at heart. Some people can be very judgmental or give off negative energy. Which can cause us to develop negative thoughts that can turn into limiting beliefs that derail us from our goals. A wise woman once told me “You should think about the people you’re spending time with the same way you think about what you eat and how you’re exercising.”

Benefits of Surrounding Yourself with Positive People

A positive person is not always someone who does, agrees or even thinks the same way you do. Positivity is something most of us can determine by the energy a person displays. Many times, we confuse the difference between someone who agrees with everything we say or do and someone who can be a positive influence. Just because someone disagrees doesn’t mean that they don’t add value to our lives. For example, me and one of my good friends have totally different opinions on just about everything, but we’re still striving for the same goal which is greatness in whatever we do. The key is to surround ourselves with people who are striving and working towards an end goal. Some of the smartest, talented and innovative people I know we have literally nothing in common other than the goal of being successful. However, I have learned so much from just aligning myself around them and soaking up all the information they have.

Surrounding ourselves with great and positive people is one of the first steps in determining our future. If you ask anyone who’ve ever made any major changes in their lives many of them would say “Once I started to surround myself with positivity and let, go of negativity my whole life changed”.  Letting go of negative people is easier said than done, many times we don’t realize how these relationships can affect us.

Final Thoughts

Ultimately who we’re destined to become has a lot to do with who we continually associate with. If you ever wondered what your life might look like in 5 years. All you have to do is look at your friends and people you associate with.  If your friends are going places, have a spirit of excellence, kind, generous, courteous, then those qualities are going to rub off on you. I encourage everyone reading this to write down the qualities of the people you spend the most time with. Would you call them positive people? Happy? Now think of how they interact and affect you do they make you feel like you have what it takes to reach your goals? Comment below & if you liked this post please share, like and re-post!


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About Jay Colby

Some would categorize me as an entrepreneur, life coach, son, friend and all of the above. I’m just another person trying to find my way in this world. Until recently, I was unsure what my path in this life would consist of. Like many others I was between I know what I want to do but not sure if that’s what I’m supposed to do. I am currently finishing my degree in something that has nothing to do with becoming a writer or entrepreneur so automatically it qualifies me to become one right! Follow me as I go through this journey called life to impact and encourage one person at a time.
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46 Responses to Surround Yourself With People: Who Want To See You Win

  1. I’m pretty much set in my ways where I’ll be in 5 years. Hopefully healthier, happier, and deeper in the word of God.

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  2. lisakunk says:

    My best friend and I have many different views re being conservative vs liberal but it’s rarely an issue because we respect each other and can speak respectfully about such topics where we differ. I think you’re right that positive people are crucial to feeling good about life. We reinforce each other which is delightful. To be accepted in spite of differences. Warts and all.

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  3. Becca says:

    Or another way of putting it, surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you

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  4. shanae92 says:

    This is very inspiring!
    I agree with this statement and believe in it. Although I am still learning myself how to separate from negativity and at times I find myself in negative situations, but I can defiantly say my life has changed for the better ever since I moved away from negativity and surrounded myself with positivity.

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  5. Eri Hunt says:

    I couldn’t agree more it’s the most essential part of life . It really has such a major impact that It will change your life forever. Wonderful post !! 🙂

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  6. Eri Hunt says:

    Reblogged this on Eri Talk and commented:
    The key to life

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  7. Our greatest influences come from the 5 people we most associate with. So we should choose wisely. Great Reminder!


  8. Sir_Phren says:

    We are not only what we think, as James Allen put it. We are also who we spend our time with.
    Nice one there bro.


  9. Great post Jay. So much truth to in it. Sometimes people don’t mean to stop you from your dreams but aren’t aware their words cause you to think twice. Positive folks seem to motivate you to keep striving toward victory.


  10. callmekinky says:

    This is a great post! I have had the pleasure meeting and connecting with some amazing people and they have certainly blessed my life in many ways. I am lucky to have accountability partners and those who genuinely root for me. Honestly, I think it enhances my quality of life. (P.S. I LOVE the feature pic of beautiful brown women)


  11. Taureenia says:

    I’ve been gone for a while. I appreciate your consistency. Whenever I return it’s like your latest post speaks to my situation. I thank God for you brother. You continue to be a blessing in my life. Great post

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  12. Clarissa says:

    I completely agree and I have taught my kids this at an early age. Spend time with people who are supportive, encouraging and genuinely want the best for you.

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  13. Laura Beth says:

    Thank you so much for posting this. I’ve struggled with several friendships over the last year or so – Letting a few go, and making a few stronger. I’m finally realizing that having a core group of friends is incredibly important, and positivity is key. I needed to read this. Thank you, Jay!

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  14. Thanks for writing this Jay!
    I actually ran into someone recently and realized its ok that I don’t really have any of my old friends as my values and interests have changed…. and it’s not a bad thing 😉

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  15. Hope says:

    One think to remember we are all born unique. You may associate with others but don’t let them overwhelm you, and you do the same things as they do.
    YOU are YOU – the one and only Jay Colby! ⭐

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  16. taylormitch says:

    We can not forget to surround ourselves with positive people.

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  17. robin rue says:

    I could not agree more. Why be with people who only bring you down? We need to be surrounded by support and positivity.

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  18. Amber says:

    Yes, I so agree. I only want to be around positive people. I find the negative ones take too much energy to deal with.

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  19. This just confirmed so much in my life right now. There are people in my life who are GOOD for my life – but there are a good number of people who are everything you’re warning against here. These same people, I’ve felt a wish to escape from for some time.

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  20. munakenny says:

    I used to get influenced by what people say especially when I’m starting a project, later I realized that they can’t do much and fear that I might succeed and then they’ll look and feel bad. One should pick and choose his company wisely! Thanks for writing this post you told nothing but the truth 🙂

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  21. Ana De-Jesus says:

    When you are surrounded by people that are positive and believe in you that is when you can feel yourself succeed. Well stated x

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  22. Erin Rose says:

    On point! I never realized just how true this was until my circle of friends made a few shifts and one person who was always negative and ‘teasing me’ for choices extracted herself from my life. I’m finding I’m surrounded by people who are always cheering me on, and you know what? It’s so amazing! It’s such a transit nation

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  23. i agree. always so important to be positive! never embrace negativity!
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  24. I live my entire life with this in mind. I don’t like toxic people, I don’t enjoy feeling on edge.

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  25. Krista Bel says:

    Someone was just telling me this a few days back. I think I need to re-think my friend strategy because we’ve become very different

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  26. I loved this post and it’s so true. I’ve had to disassociate with some who I thought were friends because they were until I accomplished something. Then they were envious and hurtful to be around.

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  27. Glenda K. says:

    I agree we must surround ourselves with positive people and people who honestly want us to achieve. There should be no room in our lives to entertain those who want to bring us down.

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  28. Megan says:

    This is so so so true! I try to live by this rule and in my adult life it has served me well!

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  29. laurenhashem says:

    Jay, this was great! I love these types of posts as they have so much truth. It took me to find a friend of perseverance and greatness to help me strive for greatness as well. Now I’m beginning to realize the people around me who don’t share that value and it is harder to part ways but is in my long run best interest. This was a perfect reminder! Thank you.

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  30. It’s so important to have the right kind of people around you. People that push you to succeed and to be better.

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  31. Azlin Bloor says:

    That is really good advice, nothing worse than drowning in negativity! Sometimes though, it’s not the easiest thing to do, so many people have a propensity for negativity.

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  32. Karen Jolly says:

    Wonderful advice. Never stick with people who are happy on bringing you down.It’s much better if we get around with the true ones.

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  33. Elizabeth O. says:

    People who are there to see you win aren’t there to pull you down. They are not toxic and they will definitely support you all the way!

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  34. I agree with you on this. It’s empowering and motivating to have people who will cheer you on as you go through the challenges in life.

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