For centuries, there has been an ongoing debate on the difference between love and lust. Often times many critics of love at first sight deem this concept to be lust not love. According to its definition love is an intense feeling of affection and care towards another person.
For most people who have experienced love it is a profound and caring attraction that can last a life time. On the other hand, lust is a strong desire of a sexual nature. Which usually leads to making rash decisions that often lead to sex.
In today’s society, many people tend to be a bit confused on the difference between love and lust. Countless number of people wonder can you be in a relationship where love and lust coexist? Can lust be a good thing? Is love at first sight really just lust at first?
These questions often lead to confusion, situationships and many could-be relationships fall to the waste side. Here are some key signs you are in lust or in love.
Signs of Lust
• You’re totally focused on a person’s looks and could care less about their personality.
• You’re interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
• You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
• You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
• You would keep communication to a minimum unless it revolves around sex.
• You only want to hang out with them after 12 AM.
Signs of Love
- You want to spend meaningful time together outside of sex.
- You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
- You want to honestly listen to each other’s feelings, make each other happy.
- He or she motivates you to be a better person.
- You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
- You actually care about the person needs both physically and mentally.
What are your thoughts do you know the difference between love & lust? Have you ever experienced true love?
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Jay Colby 
Understanding that it is love and then living in it is Surreal, but to be sure about it is difficult. Lust is the exact opposite of love and it is temporary but love on the other hand is everlasting.
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Great insight thanks for sharing!
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True love is for sure a process but that process can be short and it can be long. Believe me as I say, you will know it when its there and when its real. For us it was about waiting and about patience (both were not our strong points). Great points Jay.
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Great post as always Jay
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Thank you!
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I thought I did until I read your list. LOL.
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Lol well I’m glad you discovered some nuances to love and lust. Thanks for reading!
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Lust is easily mistaken as love because if your getting much sought after attention in the lust you can mistake it for love.
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Well said thanks for reading!
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Liking this post 🙂
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Thank you!
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Agree with what you wrote. I’ve always maintained that people confuse infatuation for love,
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A good breakdown of the contrast of love and lust. As Christ followers, we must be keenly aware and on guard of the signs of lust. Not only lust of the flesh, but of things in the world…greed, envy, the pride of life, etc. Satan is very alive and very active in the business of temptation! Thanks for the post, Jay…
Steve
https://lightministryblog.wordpress.com/
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Hi, Jay! This is the kind of topic that never goes out of fashion. As for me, I have been seldom in lust and very much in love most of the times. But love itself is a feeling too big to show itself right away, just like lust does. It is made of levels, the first one being interest, the second affection, which can be confused with a profound sense of friendship. Then you feel you can’t stay far from that person for an extended period of time, because you miss her/him. From that moment on, love starts to take its own shape.
Being in love is like getting more abstract each day; you change but you can’t see that, other people do. We are so different when we are in love.
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Great insight I agree being in love is like getting more abstract each day.
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You made some great points. 👍
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Thank you!
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I love how you broke is down like this. I think I have done both 🙂
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Wow this is a great topic! Not a lot of young people know these things. True love is hard to find.
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Very true. Thanks for reading!
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Wow this awesome! A tough topic for dialogue, but definitely an important topic. Love in my ears is truly shown by sacrifice, understanding, and support. Luster is infactuation.
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Lust rarely lasts. It can be a huge letdown when you come off the high. Love on the hand is slow and steady…and wins the race! 🙂
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Great Post!! I want to bookmark it to save for my teen daughters and their friends. Ugh how they always think they are in Love, big wake up call ladies its just High School lust
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I love this post
I have experience both and you are right, with love all you want to do is spend time with someone and you care about their feelings a lot too. Meanwhile, with lust, everything you do is related to a sexual feeling or attraction
Great post and thanks for sharing
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I agree that many people get confused and cannot tell the difference between love and lust. Even in my own case I struggle sometimes which like you said can lead to rash decisions!
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I would have to agree that love is a much deeper level. Lust, though I honestly don’t know that I have every fully allowed myself to feel it, seems much more superficial. I do believe that they can co-exist in a manner of thinking.
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Personally, to me, love is about thinking ahead to 5, 10, 15 (whatever) years down the road and asking yourself “can I still picture myself wanting to spend time with this person”. If the answer is yes, that’s a pretty good indicator to me that this is more than just lust. Thanks for your insights.
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This is great to keep in mind! I’ll have to share it with some friends.
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I have experienced both. And I certainly agree that a person should want more than a booty call for them to be in love. I think now that people fall in love with a fantasy unfortunately. So when they say the love someone, its their vision of who they are, and not the real person. That’s more dangerous than lust. Because it leads to heartbreak and disappointment.
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I think this is a great lineup of the chief differences between lust and love, and these are important things to consider when going out in the world seeking romantic interaction. It’s so easy to mistake one for the other, and then you end up in a mess.
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I was reading an article in a magazine about this exact topic. Lust is a powerful feeling, just as much as love is but Lust can be harnessed in a way to make for a very powerful and strong relationship. Don’t get me wrong, if not handled and balanced properly with love, Lust can also lead to complete devastation.
xo
Molly
http://www.allaboutgoodvibes.com
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I can’t lie your lust list made me chuckle a little lol…at this point I am pretty good a distinguishing love from lust. But sometimes lust isn’t a bad thing as long as both parties understand,set the boundaries, and play it safe of course. Love can be a very powerful thing if you’re placing your own needs and desires below another persons, could be love. Do you believe you can experience true love and sex be a non-factor? Thanks for sharing!
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When you’re young, it’s tough to tell which one is which. We often mistake lust for love especially when we’re so captivated by the person.
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It’s confusing especially if you’re so into the person. It’s important to know the difference between the two though especially if you’re looking for a lasting relationship and the other person is just in lust instead of in love with you.
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Great post! I’m currently single and haven’t really experienced true love it will keep this post in mind for when I do meet someone.
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True love, yes I have, more than once and they’re the ones that shattered my heart and broke it to pieces. Still won’t change it for anything though.
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Love this post, it can be very easy to get the two confused, especially when the relationship is new. As for me personally, I think I’ve experienced both.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
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Great read! Too many people have issues making a difference between the two and you penned it, it’s pretty simple to know which category you fall under. I personally don’t believe in love at first sight. I think there is physical attraction at first sight that sometimes can grow into love.
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I love how you differentiate the two and you hit the spot right there. People tend to get confused and this post will help them figure out what love is over lust.
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I know the difference now. Can’t say I did when I was younger but thank God for maturity.
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I think we start out in lust. You meet someone and you are physically attracted to them. Typically, you haven’t had the chance to get to know them beyond a visual. Love is something that takes time, it isn’t instant.
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This is a conversation that I have with the young adults in my life quite frequently. The distinction between love and lust is an important one to know. I have experienced true love although it was not a forever love and I am hoping to experience again soon.
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As a thirty something I know the difference but I wish 16 year old me knew back then.
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Yes, I did! It was the best experience ever. Love is patient, love is kind, and with true love kiss, lust and love intertwined. Great post!
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I agree. Lust is not to be taken seriously as that can happen with almost anyone youre super attracted to…. but love is a whole ‘nother ball game. Love is selective.
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I’ve experience both love and lust. Lust can easily be mistaken for love, though. Thanks for making such a detailed comparison.
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If the young adults and teens of today would understand the differences between the two, many of them would be in a better place! Many confuse the two and it just makes for a bad situation.
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I have experienced true love and lust (lol). As we get older we realize the lust won’t last and it’s best to just ignore it and let it pass.
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I have experienced being in love, loving someone very deeply, and sometimes both at the same time. Very interesting post some things to really think about in your relationships.
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