Online Dating: Good or Bad?

Online dating, once a fringe and stigmatized activity, now billions of people have given online dating a try. The first  online dating site was Match.com, which launched in 1995. E Harmony started in 2000, OkCupid in 2004, and more recently, a wave of mobile people-swiping such as the popular app Tinder. But is this a positive new development or something to be concerned about? Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something that a person is missing without being able to tell the cliché story how they met on a college campus or at a grocery store? I will share some positive and negatives of online dating if you agree or disagree with me comment below your reason why.

Positives:

1. It’s the lowest of low pressure dating environments:  Unlike meeting someone at a bar, for instance, time is on your side here. You can consult your friends on the perfect opening line. You have time to respond, or choose not to respond at all without risking any awkwardness. You can even throw in an emoji when words are just too much.
2. Weed out the crazy people: You can spot them pretty easily—aggressive, impatient messages, lists of rules about the types of people allowed contacting them, interests that include killing dogs on the weekend. Think about all of the time you can save and all of the locks you won’t have to change.
3. Realizing you’re not alone: Sometimes being single can make you feel like the loneliest person in the world and the thought alone of dating seems like an exhausting chore. But then spend five minutes swiping through singles in your area on Tinder and you realize that not only are you not alone

Negatives:

1. Relationships or Sex?: This is by far the biggest pitfall of online dating. This has become problematic because it has made asking for just “sex” easier online than in person.
2. Catfish: If you are not familiar with this term and want to online date I suggest you Google it. This term was coined after a popular TV show that was on MTV. It basically means someone who pretends to be someone they’re not by creating false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances.

 

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About Jay Colby

Some would categorize me as an entrepreneur, life coach, son, friend and all of the above. I’m just another person trying to find my way in this world. Until recently, I was unsure what my path in this life would consist of. Like many others I was between I know what I want to do but not sure if that’s what I’m supposed to do. I am currently finishing my degree in something that has nothing to do with becoming a writer or entrepreneur so automatically it qualifies me to become one right! Follow me as I go through this journey called life to impact and encourage one person at a time.
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94 Responses to Online Dating: Good or Bad?

  1. lastrepblog says:

    Just wish people would be straight up honest about what they want. I have used and have always been very clear about what i look for and want…however got too many times women that said something and wantrf just sex. Even married women not being honest about it and leading me on… i dont mind as long as i know what i am getting… sex is fine just tell me straight up so i dont develope feelings…gave up on it till i found one that is not only honest but actually works hard to keep… my opinion…good thing..just be honest. Dont pretend

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  2. Laura Bennet says:

    Thanks for checking out my blog, Jay! This is a good overview post about online dating. Since I met my husband online, as did my best friend (within a couple of months of each other), I’m one of the happy ending stories. But there are a lot of scams and creepy people so you have to be wise and weed through them, as you’ve said. I wish you well in your endeavors…writing seems to be going well for you!

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  4. astoldbymua says:

    I love the post! I’m writing about my own experiences with online dating so this really intrigued me 🙂

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  5. spudbudette says:

    One of our family friends went through many sites before he found someone to meet date and later marry. They are still happily married
    However I believe that is the exception. Many people use online dating to misrepresent who they are. Body language is absent until you meet which I find very important in gauging not only whether they are truthful but ofttimes what both of you really mean when you are speaking.

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  6. An interesting stance on online dating. Check out my latest blog, I talk about something similar.

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