Have you ever allowed fear of failure deter you from pursing something you’ve always wanted to do? Has fear ever determined your fate, for lack of faith or belief in your own abilities?
Many of us have likely been through situations in our lifetime when we let fear get the best of us. Often times, when we start to think about taking a risk or chance in life limiting beliefs can start to enter our minds. Reminding us we cannot succeed for whatever reason, and we probably should just give up before we fail. In our society, failure is looked upon in a negative connotation as something we should avoid at all cost. Therefore, many people pass on these limiting beliefs to their children and community believing that they’re saving them from regret and failure. Thus, causing many children and young adults to develop a mindset that there is only a certain limit to their success.
In this article, we’ll discuss fear of failure, what causes it and how to overcome fear of failure and lose those limiting beliefs many of us have.
Causes of Fear of Failure
The first step to understanding fear of failure we have to clarify what failure means. Depending on who you ask there are many different definitions of failure. Simply because everybody has different benchmarks, values and belief systems. A failure to one person might seem like a great learning experience for someone else.
Fear of failure can be related to many causes. For example, having critical or unsupportive parents can cause some people to develop limiting beliefs at a young age. This can start a long-life battle of with fear of failure.
Going through a traumatic event at some point in our lives can also cause fear. For instance, let’s just say several years ago, you gave a presentation in your 11th grade English class, and you did poorly. You stumbled over your words and was nervous throughout your presentation. This experience might have affected you in such a way that you became afraid of failing in other areas of your life. Thus, carrying this wait of fear throughout adulthood.
Overcoming Your Fear
It’s always imperative that we remember that in anything we do, there’s always a chance we might not succeed the first time. Key word is the first time even though we might make mistakes, but we cannot let mistakes deter us from our predestined greatness. Here are three methods to overcome fear of failure.
- Use the 5 second rule – The art of learning to just get up and try something is one of the hardest things to overcome for anyone dealing with fear. This is when the 5 second rule comes into play if utilized properly. For example, let’s just say you get a call for a job interview for a position that you’ve always wanted, but may not fit all the qualifications listed on the job posting. Thus, causing you to fear not getting the job, because you’re under-qualified. The 5 second rule simply means when fear creeps its ugly head in your thoughts you simply close your eyes count to 5 and say “I’m going to do _____ no matter what I am going to try.” Saying this simple statement can do wonders for letting go of fear.
- Learn to think more positively – Positive thinking is an extremely influential way to build confidence and defuse self-sabotage. Once we change our thought process towards failure we can make a major step towards attaining the success we deserve.
- Establish goals – To overcome fear in life we have to define what exactly we want to achieve in our lives. Whether it’s a long term or short term goal we have to visualize our plan. Once we make a plan and write it out. We have to remind ourselves that no matter what road blocks that might occur along the way. We will still push through and find a way to succeed.
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