Jay I have been in and out of relationships since I was 17 years old. I am older now and still confused about my relationships with women and having a good work-life balance. I am self-employed and work about 60-70 hours a week. I have dedicated my life to building my business letting go of relationships, family and friends who I felt like were holding me back from my success. Over the years I forgot about love now I’m 32 and want to start dating again. I have no kids and no real commitments other than my business. But all the women I’m meeting in my age bracket or a little younger have kids or crazy ex husbands or boyfriends. I’m not sure if it’s something wrong with me for not willing to deal with this type of thing. My question to you is how can I meet someone who’s attractive career driven, honest and doesn’t have any kids or do women like this even exist anymore?
This is an interesting question I’ve noticed both men and women have trouble with this same thing. Many people become so career focused they totally forget about their love life. However, it is never too late to find a meaningful loving relationship. I do understand some of the challenges you’re facing are common, but I have to ask have you ever tried other methods of dating other than the traditional forms. There are many ways to meet people from online dating, social media, going to network events or even the grocery store. I’ve noticed many people put their selves in a bubble thinking things have to be one way, but if that was the case there would be one size shoe for every foot.
Now you stated that “all the women I’m meeting in my age bracket or a little younger have kids or crazy ex husbands or boyfriends.” I have to wonder what type of women you’re attracting that you’ve come across these issues. One thing you should consider that many of us go through is what I like to call “the mirror game”. This is when we take a step back and look at ourselves in the mirror and consider what is it about me that I keep attracting this kind of person. I remember a great philosopher once said “If everyone you seem to attract is unmotivated, boring, unattractive… it’s not what’s wrong with them it’s you because you keep attracting this type of energy.”
Often times we attract who we are so you should take a deeper look at your life and consider what changes if any should you make to improve yourself. Then reflect on your standards and determine if they’re something you can compromise on and if not are they a need or a want. These things should always be considered when you’re looking to date someone. Now the issue with dating a woman with kids is a personal choice and many of us can understand why or why not you wouldn’t like dating a woman with kids. But as I’m sure you know no one is perfect so never say never.
Finding someone in 2017 can be tough but there’s over 7 billion people in the world and 3.5 billion are women. So, don’t give up on finding someone you truly connect with and can possibly build a beautiful relationship with.
What are your thoughts are there any quality people to date in 2017?