In today’s society, there are many societal expectations placed on us such as how much money we should make, where we should live, what we should eat and who we should date/marry. Whenever we choose to go outside this narrative and try something completely against social norms. We can sometimes be seen as a social outlier, because we chose a different path.
For example, let’s say growing up you always wanted to go to college and become a nurse. Then in your first semester of college and you’re taking an anatomy class and you realize that it’s not for you. You may want to leave school get a job and forgo getting your education to find your passion in life. However, the social norm is to pick a different major and continue in school, but sometimes we may want to go off of the path others have chosen for us.
Many times, our friends, family specifically our parents have a vision for our lives that they’ve always imagined for us since we were kids. Maybe they wanted us to go to college be in a certain career, live in a certain neighborhood and get married by a certain age. Although there is nothing wrong with these wants from our parents and society. They might not be our wants and desires, because the beauty about human beings we’re all different. We have different mindsets, motivation, goals and perceptions of life.
Therefore, when we decide to take a different route to get to the ultimate goal of totally happiness which most of us want. Sometimes our family might become unsupportive of our own vision for our lives. Often times this is not intentional on their part, they just want the best for us and don’t want us to experience failures, disappointments and closed doors that we might face if we followed our dreams. On the contrary even if we don’t follow our “dreams” we will still face failures and disappointments because those things are just a part of life.
Reality of a Support System
According to research studies about 80% of people we come in contact with won’t believe in us. Basically, out of 10 people we meet or know 8 won’t believe in us and that’s okay, because we have to always remember it’s not their belief that will take us to where we want to go. Having a support system is great, but spending time worrying about who doesn’t support us is a waste of time. Here are three things to always remember when your family and friends don’t believe in your dreams.
1. Life is short – This may seem a little frightening, but it is the harsh reality we all face. Therefore, if we choose to spend our time worrying about what our friends, family or society feels about OUR lives. We might not ever have the chance to explore our true selves and reach the predestined greatness we all can achieve. Just ask yourself “do you really want to spend your time feeling down over others’ words when in the end, you only have one life to live?”
2. Don’t let the fear of others create your own fear – Friends and family usually have the best intentions in their worry, criticism and dismissive attitude towards our dreams. However, what they might not realize that their placing their fear onto us. This happens for several reasons one being they’re placing their own limiting beliefs that our goals are unattainable, because they know they cannot achieve them. As a wise woman once told me “Never let someone else’s fear become your fear.”
3. You can do this without family support – Yes in everything we do in life we need some type of support. However, this doesn’t necessarily have to come from family a lot of times our biggest supports are people we don’t even know. Therefore, if you’re not getting that support always remember the power in yourself that you can make it without their support. Often times once we show some promise and success they will usually come a long eventually.
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