When you type in the word “success” on any search engine you will see a variety of things. One of the first things we may see are articles, websites or the definition of success. The notion of being successful or reaching a certain level in our lives whether it be in our careers, family life, appearance or our bank account. The thought of being successful has infatuated people for decades, this is one of the main reasons why so many people are “selling success” i.e. in books, music, networking marketing companies, get rich schemes, blogs etc. The word success or successful are subjective for each person, because everyone has different views of success. However, majority of people would tell you they want to be successful there’s not too many people who would side with the idea of being or having an unsuccessful life. Therefore, with there being so many myths about success here’s the top 5 myths about success.
- The Myth of “Experts”
There are so many experts in today’s digital age that the word doesn’t have the same importance it once had. Nowadays anyone online with a platform can claim to be a relationship guru, life guru, success guru or the I can make you rich online if you follow these three easy steps guru. The misconception that the only way we can achieve success is by getting information from all these self-proclaimed experts is false. On the hand its nothing wrong with learning from others and attaining valuable information, but no one can give you a 5-step plan to change your life and make you success.
- Success Happens Overnight
This is a pretty simple concept that I often get asked on a weekly basics “how long will it take me to be successful and achieve my dream”? The answer is simple as well it depends on many factors i.e. what are you willing to give up for success, what exactly you’re trying to achieve and how much time or money are willing to invest in your success. The idea that we can achieve success overnight is usually not the case. Many times, when we see people who we perceive as successful nine times out ten they have been working towards their success for years sometimes even decades. Often times, we don’t realize the sacrifice you have to go through to reach success. As difficult and sometimes seemingly esoteric success is available to all of us.
- Success Equals Money & Happiness
There is an overwhelming thought that “having success” means money will be right outside our imaginary success door. This thought-process usually comes from many of the give rich quick books that gives us 5 easy steps to make money. Success and happiness differ for each person, but the want for happiness is something that we all want and desire. Money is a respected way of measuring success, but it isn’t the only one. Success is about making our dreams come true, becoming the best version of ourselves, and living a purposeful life.
- All you need to do is work REALLY REALLY Hard
This belief is true to a certain extent, yes we do have to work really really hard to achieve success. However, that is certainly not the only thing that will make us successful. There have been many people who have worked extremely hard but still failed. The key is not to just work hard but efficiently and put in the amount of effort that is required. In the end, everyone agrees that success requires hard work, regardless of whether you want to run a marathon or build a successful business.
- Being Accepted or Liked is a Measure of Success
The thought of being liked or accepted is one that we might not think about on a daily basis, but is sometimes an underlying idea in our minds. Therefore, sometimes we measure success by the response we get from others. For example, I’ve gotten emails of people asking me to check out their blog and give them feedback, but whether not someone likes us or our work doesn’t mean we aren’t successful. Everyone has different opinions about our lives, career choices and just about anything we decide to do. Nonetheless if we base our lives on what other people think about us we can get down upon ourselves.
What are you thoughts about success how do you define success?
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Man this was brilliant. Yes success has a hidden factor of nepotism and marketing as well. The old saying of “its not what you know, but who you know.” That’s true man.
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Thank you & yes you’re right knowing the right people can take you a long way.
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True facts mentioned 🙂
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Thank you!
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My myself, success is a daily process. I achieve success every time I get the kids to do their chores and clean their rooms. I still aim towards being “successful” in regards to things like financial stability and notoriety, but for the most part, I look at the small successes of each day as the most important part of my life.
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That’s great outlook to have. Thanks for sharing!
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Hello from Malaysia! This is a great morning read! My key takeaway here is “Success happens overnight”. I required sacrifices and hustle! Sadly, I observed most people desire that instant gratification of success. Then, they change their lane without going into the depth of the hustle. Keep up the great word! 🙂
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Thank you for reading & your exactly right many people think success will happen over night. But most times it takes a lot of hard work and long hours to achieve success.
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Points so well made Jay. Success is a process not an event. It can only be appreciated when pursued with honesty, integrity and fortitude. Exactly the traits you are applying Jay!
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Great tips Jay. So many people fall for the traps you’ve outlined, and it’s always refreshing to see someone lay it out in a way that makes so much sense.
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Thank you I’m glad it resonated with you!
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Nice post! I’ve also found that success means you have to fail over and over again and keep trying new things.
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Very true thanks for reading!
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All so true! 👌🏼👌🏼 Right on point !
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Thank you for reading!
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So true. This idea that money equals success is such a poison. I once wasted years of my life chasing money, because I thought that was what success meant.
Then it was a terrifying experience when I had to actually redefine my life in order to figure out what I really needed to do.
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Very true money does not equal success. Thanks for reading!
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My definition –
Success: making life better for others.
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