Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. People express love in a variety of ways. This diversity in love and loving has made expressing and finding love in today’s society a bit complex for some people. Heterosexual love and romance in this new era reflects a change that has been evident in the roles of woman and men since the emergence of the contemporary women’s movement. Traditional roles may have been characterized by the woman being submissive and passive to her husband. However in today’s society roles have changed in a dramatic way. This change has resulted in a great deal of anxiety and uncertainty as couples try to balance traditional norms with current developments in the absence of clear-cut rules and guidelines. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child’s earliest experiences with its mother and farther. Which the child relies on to meets their needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. I will explain three reasons why people have a hard time expressing their love.
- Fear of Disapproval and Rejection
A lot of people are terrified of rejection and ending up alone that you would rather swallow your feelings and put up with something or someone who really doesn’t make you happy rather than taking the chance of making anyone mad at you.
- Low Self-Esteem
You believe that you are not entitled to express your feelings or to ask others for what you want. You think you should always please other people and meet their expectations.
- Emotional Perfectionism
You believe that you should not have feelings such as anger, jealousy, depression, or anxiety. You believe that you should always be rational and in control of your emotions this can become a major issue when trying to express love.
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