A few days ago I was having a conversation with a close friend of mine. When the topic of relationships was brought up and we proceed to talk about many aspects of relationships romantic and platonic. During the conversation the subtopic of cheating was mentioned we begin to discuss what cheating really was to us and if we would forgive someone for it. During this exchange I was taken aback when my friend begins their soliloquy by saying “they would forgive any cheating if they were in love”. This statement took me by surprise because I have always been of the mindset that if someone cheats on you they really don’t love you. Now I do understand everyone makes mistakes but in my opinion cheating is going past a mistake. When someone decides to cheat it is not a mistake but rather a choice. Once a person goes beyond communicating their issues to their significant other or better yet leaves the relationship and decides to cheat they have went beyond a mistake. Then the conversation switch to what kind of cheating is worse sex or emotional or are they equal. For some they are both considered “deal-breakers” for various reasons. I tend to believe that sometimes emotional cheating can be as or more damaging than any other kind in some instances. My friend was convinced that emotional cheating was worse because when emotions are involved you are slowly losing your significant other slowly but surely. At first I did not completely agree with their opinion but when I started to contemplate what was said. I began to form a new opinion that the problem isn’t that one kind of cheating is more or less forgivable than the other it’s that forgiving and forgetting isn’t an option when your partner has emotionally cheated. Your partner doesn’t want to be forgiven they want out. Cheating can unleash devastating consequences on a couple and is oft-cited as the ultimate deal breaker. Unfortunately, the healing process doesn’t happen overnight, and even the most committed couples can get waylaid by hurt feelings, paralyzing guilt, and resentment. Comment below whether you think cheating is unforgivable or forgivable and if you like this post, please share!
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