If you are like most people, you have aspirations for a better life maybe a goal or dream you like to achieve. That goal may coincide with personal growth or maybe a dream that you always wanted to pursue. Your goal may also include going back to school, becoming an entrepreneur or starting a new workout routine. Having a goal is the easy part achieving and overcoming inner and outer doubt can truly leave you frightened past your wildest dreams and completely powerless by your own fear. Some of us spend a vast majority of time arranging our dreams, talking about them, writing about them and reading books about them preparing to act on said dream.
Sometimes our activities make us believe we’re moving in the right direction when self-doubt or fear pops up its ugly head. This is usually when what I liked to call “scaredy cat decisions” comes into action these are decision based on fear. Simply put this is when you let your fears or worries dictate your actions. Once you reach this point of thinking it can either break you or make you. At one point or another, we all question whether or not we are doing enough, making enough money, or if we are going to be “successful”.
Like in my own experience, self-doubt will try to snuff out your dreams. It will try to hold you back from becoming anything. But don’t you let it! You are capable of achieving what you want to achieve, one step at a time. Here are a few ways that can help you conquer your fears and become fearless to achieve all of your grandest goals and dreams.
- Recognize That You have Self-Doubt or Fear
You can’t get rid of something until you recognize that it’s there. By recognizing that self-doubt or fear is holding you back you’re one step closer to rediscovering your self-confidence.
- Build Your Confidence
Although achieving your dream will bring up stress, fear, doubt, this experience is precisely what is necessary for a confidence breakthrough to occur. It is not enough to make self-supporting choices when your journey is easy, you have to do it when it’s hardest to do so.
- Don’t Listen To The Doubters
When you care about what everyone else is thinking of you, you inhibit yourself. You’d rather do nothing and not get judged than do something and risk criticism. No matter what you’re trying to achieve there will always be naysayers in the way saying you can’t do it. When you stop listening to them and focus on your dreams and passions you have taken a major step.
- Read Positive Messages
This is very important especially if you don’t have anyone in your life to encourage, motivate or inspire you to continue to follow your dream. These positive articles, videos or blogs can help shape your mindset in mighty way.
- Ask Yourself Empowering Questions
Certain types of questions can lead you to gain new insights and new motivation. Ask yourself the following questions, allow yourself to answer them from your heart, and see where your truths take you: Are your dreams important enough to change your daily lifestyle? Are you willing to make sacrifices to achieve your goal or dream? Do you have the courage to go after what you want and see it through?
Has self-doubt ever stopped you from doing something you longed to do? How did you overcome this self-doubt or fear? Comment below.
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Great advice about setting goals!
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Thank you for sharing this! It was inspirational, I guess the 2nd point was the one hitting the spot for me.
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Very inspirational:)
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Love this Jay. Love it a lot.
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Thanks for this Jay, keep writing!
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very inspirational post. Hit the nail on the head with all your points
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I currently do most of the items above and I have gotten a lot better, but I am still lacking a little.
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YES! This is what I have been trying to tell myself… I have going back to school [2nd degree] for Veterinary Technology…I’ve basically dreamed of working with animals since right after I graduated college. I remember looking up jobs at animal sanctuaries and shelters and not in my field, hoping I would get one of those…I was never great at science, but I’m not letting that stop me! Not listening to my doubts!! Lol…study hard, work hard, it will show- that’s how I feel. 🙂
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Great post. It’s so important to surround yourself with people who support you and encourage you in order to reach your goals. Toxic people are a real thing.
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Great topic, always current:)
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Self doubt can indeed cheat us of sooo much….can be just as damaging as being indecisive…great post…thanks for stopping by my site…keep up the great work…
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Great post definitely something that I could use right now
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I personally realized that my own self doubt is only thing left holding me back from going after my passion I guess after all these years of be put down, and being to I couldn’t and wouldn’t be able to be successful really took a toll on me mentally. Glad to say that i can move on .
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Some good insight Jay. Thank you.
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💙💙💙
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This is one for the everyday shelf! Each point is incredibly insightful. It’s a constant determination for me to push through self-doubt and fear, especially in working toward my dreams. I feel that the rewards are always well worth it and each experience (good and bad) provides a new stepping stone toward confidence and success 🙂
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Great one, inspirational Jay.
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Thank you!
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Great post, it was good to asks reflect
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Thank you!
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Great blog post! 👌🏽✨✌🏽️
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Thank you!!!!
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Those are some fantastic ideas on how to conquer fear and self-doubt. Often, those are the biggest barriers to achieving our goals. We self limit.
Thank you for sharing these.
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You are right many times self-doubt and our own thoughts can limit us. Thanks for reading!
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So moving. I love knowing people who inspire others. Keep going! 👍🏻
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Thank you!
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Highly motivational. Keep on writing.👌💖
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Thank you!
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An inspiring message! Love this!
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Thank you!
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Great read! I needed this😊
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Thank you for reading & I’m glad it resonated with you!
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Jay we can plan for years to achieve a goal and stay stuck.
We have to be willing to ask ourselves are we willing to do whatever it takes to reach that dream.
This all depend on our belief about self.
When we check our motives we may find out self-doubt and fear could be the driving force behind it.
But when we truly want to grow we stay focus until it’s done.
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Asking empowering questions is my favorite. The universe sends answers to questions we ask for. Thank you for the reminder:)
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Hi! I find really interesting watching sport documentaries and how hard those athletes work to achieve their goals.
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Great read!!
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Number 4 all the way 🙌🏻 It can be near impossible to achieve your dreams when your social herd it filled with doubters. Take time by yourself and invest inspiration! Thanks for sharing ☺️
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I enjoyed reading this!
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