The difficult nature of making changes means that you will likely be putting in effort that will take you far beyond the point at which it is inspiring or fun. This stage is what I like to call “The Grind”, which starts when actions necessary to produce meaningful change become stressful, exhausting ,and tedious. Simply put the grind is daily struggle that a lot of people go through and sometimes can discourage anyone making major changes in their life. Also at this stage your efforts toward change really count. The Grind is what separates those who are able to change from those who are not. Many people who reach this point in the process of change either ease up or give up because change is just too hard. But truly motivated people reach this stage and keep on going. Many self-help gurus, life coaches and motivators will often say that “You have to love The Grind”. I say that, except for a very few extremely motivated people, love isn’t really realistic because there’s not much to love in “The Grind” stage. Loving the grind is rare and how you respond to this stage lies along a continuum. At the other end of the continuum is “I hate The Grind.” If you feel this way, you are not likely to stay motivated to change. I suggest that you neither love nor hate this process simply accept it as part of the deal in striving toward a better you. The Grind may not feel very good, but what does feel good is seeing your efforts pay off with the changes you want. All else being equal, whatever you put into your change efforts is what you will get out of them. A problem I see among many people who say they want to change is an disconnect between their efforts and their goals. People say they really want to change, but their efforts don’t reflect that stated motivation .Ultimately there is a gap between the goals many people have and the effort they are putting into those goals. It’s easy to say that you want to change. It is much more difficult to actually make that happen. If you have this kind of disconnect, you have two choices. You can either lower your goals to match your efforts or you can raise your efforts to match your goals. There is no right choice. But if you’re truly motivated to change, you better make sure you’re doing the work necessary to achieve your goals.Here are four things that can help endure “The Grind”.
- How bad do you want it:
Once you figure this step out it is easy to get through “The Grind”. Most people say they want to be successful, but their actions don’t match their words which prove they don’t want it bad enough. Just kinda wanting to change won’t bring you change in any aspect of your life. A quote that really helped me get through this stage is “When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful”.
- View mistakes as lessons:
During this process you’re going to make mistakes but use those mistakes a guide to help you achieve your ultimately goal.
- Make sacrifices:
So, this is probably the least fun part about turning your dreams or goals into reality. Whether it is giving up your weekends to work on a project or, kicking certain vices to the curb and eliminating distractions. Regardless whatever it is you can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.
- Be consistent:
While the rest of the world is sitting on their sofas watching TV waiting for their dreams to magically appear, achievers are working on their goals achieving their dreams.
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