The difficult nature of making changes means that you will likely be putting in effort that will take you far beyond the point at which it is inspiring or fun. This stage is what I like to call “The Grind”, which starts when actions necessary to produce meaningful change become stressful, exhausting ,and tedious. Simply put the grind is daily struggle that a lot of people go through and sometimes can discourage anyone making major changes in their life. Also at this stage your efforts toward change really count. The Grind is what separates those who are able to change from those who are not. Many people who reach this point in the process of change either ease up or give up because change is just too hard. But truly motivated people reach this stage and keep on going. Many self-help gurus, life coaches and motivators will often say that “You have to love The Grind”. I say that, except for a very few extremely motivated people, love isn’t really realistic because there’s not much to love in “The Grind” stage. Loving the grind is rare and how you respond to this stage lies along a continuum. At the other end of the continuum is “I hate The Grind.” If you feel this way, you are not likely to stay motivated to change. I suggest that you neither love nor hate this process simply accept it as part of the deal in striving toward a better you. The Grind may not feel very good, but what does feel good is seeing your efforts pay off with the changes you want. All else being equal, whatever you put into your change efforts is what you will get out of them. A problem I see among many people who say they want to change is an disconnect between their efforts and their goals. People say they really want to change, but their efforts don’t reflect that stated motivation .Ultimately there is a gap between the goals many people have and the effort they are putting into those goals. It’s easy to say that you want to change. It is much more difficult to actually make that happen. If you have this kind of disconnect, you have two choices. You can either lower your goals to match your efforts or you can raise your efforts to match your goals. There is no right choice. But if you’re truly motivated to change, you better make sure you’re doing the work necessary to achieve your goals.Here are four things that can help endure “The Grind”.
- How bad do you want it:
Once you figure this step out it is easy to get through “The Grind”. Most people say they want to be successful, but their actions don’t match their words which prove they don’t want it bad enough. Just kinda wanting to change won’t bring you change in any aspect of your life. A quote that really helped me get through this stage is “When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you’ll be successful”.
- View mistakes as lessons:
During this process you’re going to make mistakes but use those mistakes a guide to help you achieve your ultimately goal.
- Make sacrifices:
So, this is probably the least fun part about turning your dreams or goals into reality. Whether it is giving up your weekends to work on a project or, kicking certain vices to the curb and eliminating distractions. Regardless whatever it is you can have anything in life if you will sacrifice everything else for it.
- Be consistent:
While the rest of the world is sitting on their sofas watching TV waiting for their dreams to magically appear, achievers are working on their goals achieving their dreams.
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At that point is so much positive thoughts and motivation in your whole content. I’m learning, continue writing.
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Loved this post. I am in the ‘grind’ right now! Glad I found your blog!
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Awesome
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Great post. I’ve always agreed with this statement you made… “I suggest that you neither love nor hate this process simply accept it as part of the deal in striving toward a better you. “
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I love the first point. It all come down to one thing “Do bad do you really want ?”
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Great post… I had no idea there was a term for this stage. I always called it the my “nose to the grindstone” period — the “The Grind” makes perfect sense.
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I love everything about this…THANK YOU!!!
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Reblogged this on ranibu and commented:
Definitely a must read.
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Great read…!! Very inspiring and motivating.. good stuff
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Love this!!!
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Thank you!
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So true. Great post!
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Thank you!
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Outstanding post as always Jay!! Thanks for sharing.
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Thank you!
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The Grind is so real in every aspect of life. Love your posts Jay, I’ll be keeping this in mind for the future.
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Thank you I’m glad you enjoyed it!
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Wow! As always, you have motivated me again! Dammit why am I so lazy!
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Thank you I’m glad it resonated with you!
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I love “The Grind”
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Thank you!
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You’re very welcome 😊
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I love the grind! I’m a workaholic once I start somethimg I strive to finish it one way or another. I’m no quitter! Thanks for this motivation!
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That is great many people struggle with the “The Grind” concept. I’m glad you enjoyed it!
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Great informative post, too 😊 good. 👌👌👌👌👌👌
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Thank you!
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Thank you so much for sharing ! This is my guide to stay focus definitely.
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Thank you I’m glad you found it helpful!
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Absolutely your welcome !
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I Love this jay…. I truely do
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Thanks for sharing
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Thank you!
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Always welcome Jay
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“You can either lower your goals to match your effort, or raise your effort to match your goals” great statement! True, “the grind” isn’t an enjoyable aspect of reaching goals to most people, but I feel you should try to learn to enjoy it. After all, reaching the goal is only half the battle; the journey there is just as important, and therefore should be just as enjoyable when you view it as something positive, like personal growth and development, rather than as something negative. I’ve always struggled to stay motivated after the first few initial days of starting a new goal of mine, but “the grind” doesn’t seem so bad anymore now that I’ve simply changed my perspective on it. Awesome post Jay!
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Very true with “enjoying the journey” to success. The road will seem long and somewhat less desirable. Thank you for reading and sharing such great insight!
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“You can either lower your goals to match your effort, or raise your effort to match your goals” great statement! I agree, most people aren’t too fond of “the grind” period that comes with reaching one’s goals. However, I feel you should try to learn to enjoy it, and view it as something positive, as personal growth and development, rather than as something negative. After all, reaching the goal is only half the battle; the journey there is just as important, and therefore should be just as enjoyable. Awesome post Jay!
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Great post
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Thank you!
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Great advice, and perspective for enduring the grind. I Loved this post!
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Thank you I’m glad you enjoyed it!
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It’s easy to say that you want to change. It is much more difficult to actually make that happen. If you have this kind of disconnect, you have two choices. You can either lower your goals to match your efforts or you can raise your efforts to match your goals.
Lovely ❤❤
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Fantastic post! I can be unreasonably hard on myself when making a mistake, making The Grind that much more difficult to endure. Thanks for the reminder that mistakes are actually lessons, to focus on what was learned instead of what went wrong.
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Great advice!
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Thank you!
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This is awesome and sooooo true. At work the other day a colleague and I were discussing why there is a lot of turnover in a certain position. It is a position that has some mundane tasks, but also a lot of potential if the person is willing to do the mundane part. That is the problem – people want the glamorous, high-profile job without showing that they can excel on the the little things that are often a GRIND.
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Very true for anything we start most times we will start at the bottom. But if we endure the grind we can excel and start to move up!
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There are also folks who love to talk about change and how they want this, that and the other, but do very little about it. I like to call this ‘admiring a problem’! The grind is a great scapegoat to blame the situation on!
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This post is great and so true! The grind is not a joke!
“I suggest that you neither love nor hate this process simply accept it as part of the deal in striving toward a better you.”
So true, if we are indifferent to it and simply accept it, it makes life easier. I’ve heard someone say, “The dream is free but the hustle is sold separately.” We all want to be rich and successful, but it’s a matter of to what degree do we want it. That is the game changer. How hard you hustle is reflective of how bad you want it!
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I agree 100% the grind is not as pretty but always worth it. Thanks for reading!
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The grind is just a part of the process. So true! I’ve accepted it and the results are so worth it!
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Strive to achieve is my motto.
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Hey Jay, I’ve always been reading your blog posts via my email (subscribed to email list) whenever I get the chance to and always loved them so- I feel like I should leave a comment today to let you know how much I appreciate your work and definitely your effort. 🙂
The grind, is indeed something we must endure. They are the challenges that separates the people who want them badly enough or not.
Most people believe in making small and “safe” decisions because it’s easier to make them but what we fail to realize is we can never hit HUGE success if we never think big!
Sure, we can follow what everyone else is doing and get a slice of the pie but- if you want a whole pie to yourself? Why not make your own? Sure, it will take work but it WILL be worth it!
Sweet post as always- Keep them coming!
Your pal,
Benjamin
http://www.projectbiy.com
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