In today’s culture it seems like on Instagram,Twitter and Facebook everybody wants a relationship. Every time I check one of my social media sites it’s always someone either bashing relationships or constantly seeking to be in one. So in light of this epidemic I’ll share five reason why you’re still single.
- Your standards are to high: You want someone to have everything you want and more but you don’t have any of the things you are requesting. Regardless of standards there are no perfect people ladies and gentleman.
- Presentation: We all know presentation is everything so how you present yourself to world is how people will see you. A lot of times people present themselves in a negative light and wonder why they don’t attract the person they really want.
- You’re going after the wrong person: This happens all too often. A lot of the time people have a fantastic of what they think of a potential partner-good looking, great personality and successful.
- You’re hung up on an ex: Whether you are still seeing this person or still dreaming about them. This person is getting in the way and leaving you with nothing but an empty bed. Sometimes the thoughts of an ex will keep you from investing in another person.
- Your stuck in a “Situationship”: This is a new term that is used to describe an issue that is very common for a lot of people. This may be the case because perhaps the person is very physically attractive or mentally stimulating. Also your probably have developed deep feelings for this person and are willing to not be in a committed relationship.
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To all my readers: you should really check out this article. Everyone in college seems to be constantly seeking out new relationships and/or complaining about being single. At some point you have a moment of reflection and consider why you’re still single. This article nicely simplifies the top 5 reasons. Definitely check it out, maybe you’ll learn something!
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A lot of people are so focused on being in relationships for the sole purpose of making snapchat videos with their “Bae.” Most of the time they’re in “situationships.” It’s hard to find someone who truly values being in a real relationship that isn’t on social media.
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Amen!!!! Fully Agree!!
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Yeah, that’s true…as a man, I’d say good ladies are getting harder to find in the world of today.
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I like your blog too.
This is a great post!
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As far as presentation goes, I think some people present a fake version of themselves, then when people see who they really are after a time they are put off, regardless of whether that person is good or not. What we see is not always what we ultimately get. Which is why I’m so glad I’ve been married for 21 years!
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That is so true I know most of the books, articles and aficionados say that when you first meet someone you meet their “representative” and it usually takes maybe six months to meet the real person. But even in that time we all know that the person can change. Thanks for reading!
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. A lot of people choose to live single. 🙂 why the pressure to couple up?
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I agree nothing with being single. I’m single myself :). Thanks for reading!
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I just have no desire to be in a relationship.
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Understandable!
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That’s right you better lay out the important stuff!!! Funny part about that is you’ve only scratched the surface of it all!!! Great post.
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That’s true, he has only scratched the surface. As a follower of my blog Jay, I am single on none of what you list as you have not put down because of an abusive past it puts you off another and that also another example, because I choose to be single.
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You are speaking truth!!! Keep teaching the people 🙂
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Thank you!!
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This is a solid post! Here’s another reason, fear. Many people (myself included) make excuses like education and work. We want a relationship but we don’t want our commitment to cause us to do poorly in other areas of life
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You make an great point. Thanks for sharing!
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Great insight Jay ! Thanks for sharing!
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Love it! You will never end up with the right person if you are solely looking for a relationship, not a partner.
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Exactly thanks for reading!
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I would agree with all this, and I would add that a lot of people haven’t become who they want to be yet! Even if you do snag someone, it won’t work out until you’ve got yourself settled.
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Very true thanks for sharing!
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Very reasonable advice as far as I can see. Thanks!
Just on #5 it’s “You’re”
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Thanks for reading!
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I love this post, thanks for sharing awesome content all the time.
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Thank you for reading!
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I loved all the points but especially number 3! I think we live in a generation heavily influenced by superficial things and as a result, we miss out on connecting with the right people. Great post! x
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Your absolutely right. Thanks for reading!
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Agreed!
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Thank for reading!
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thanks for the wonderful article
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I like all 5 and in some of them I see myself…Keep writing I enjoy reading your blog
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Thank you!
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this is on point!!
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Thank you!
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Well, sir.
Curve ball. Your single because the attraction to someone else when compared to your self is weak. In other words, no one is interesting enough to disturb your inner space so as to make you want to be in a relationship.
— Blessings
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Great insight. Thanks for sharing!
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this is brilliant- so true ❤
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Thank you!
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Great post. Things I can polish up on lol. Thanks for sharing
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Thanks for reading!
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You are welcome. I always enjoy good reads.
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Great post Jay. #3 and 4 caught my eye. If a person needs fixing they are not ready and if you’re still hoping to get your ex back it’s unfair to start a relationship with someone new.
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Exactly we shouldn’t get in a relationship if we’re still in love with some else
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This is great advice for everyone complaining about singleness! Reminds them there might be an issue at home to take care of, the world isn’t conspiring against you. Many young folk are content with staying single longer and that has a lot of positives as well (https://roguemillennials.org/2017/02/25/singleness-a-millennial-voice/) – but if they are griping about it, your advice is exactly what they need to hear!
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or you just never fell in love with that special person.
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However, I am single by choice.
I choose to be with me.
I am quite proud of my relationship with me.
Not many people are comfortable being with themselves.
I mean, if you are not comfortable with yourself,
how can you expect others to be comfortable with you?
😀
ren
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That’s so true
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Reason #1 is probably the #1 reason why most people are still single. Another reason I feel like some people are still single is because they have failed to realize that they have to be happy with themselves first before they can be committed to another person. Great post!
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Great post. Some people are simply single because marriage is not their priority. Relationship require time, work, and the write authentic person. Singleness can be a wonderful blessing.
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Well damn Jay! Next time you want to just call me out, @ me. 😂😅 I have noticed that my standards are high but they are high because I set them to the potential I believe someone can reach. I have also been known to go after the wrong person. I have a type- lost, hurt souls. I try to help but only end up getting hurt in the long run. Luckily, I’m not hung up on my ex or in a situationship. I’m not trying to be stuck on stupid. Great post! 🙂
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They say if the shoe fits lol but I understand having standards are always great. We just have to know the difference between what we need and what we just really want. Thus, keeping a lot of people from their blessing chasing after things they want but don’t need. Thanks for reading!
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Chasing after what we want versus what we need… great takeaway! 👏🏽
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“CASE” UN, I’M OLD! case DUE’, I’m O.C.P.D. = “SIXTY MINUTE MAN”…= Too much “SMOKE”.
case FIN= KNEAD EYE SE’ MOOR!?!
Thank YOU for the “Gander” of a “thought’.
“D”… “wink” squared
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Great post. I feel like another thing that happens to people is they set their expectations for the wrong traits. I think the most important things to look for in a partner are their principles.
A lot of people pretend to care or being considerate, but when you dig deeper you find that they lack real empathy. They’re faking that.
For example, this one guy I dated kept trying to get me to look more fashionable. He seemed embarrassed if I didn’t look good enough for his friends. This one just one of many things I felt unimpressed by. Sure, I understand not to dress like a slob, but it never seemed like it was about me, but about him. Someone who cares too much for their friend’s opinion is someone who is insecure in my opinion.
I think the advice of a trusted friend is invaluable, but not that of shallow ones who only care for appearances.
The guy I ended up married to was someone was a hard-worker who was thoughtful, asked advice from his father when he wasn’t sure, and trusted his judgement.
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This! Dead on. I was once stuck in a situationship. lol.. Just learned that it was even a thing. Awesome read.
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Definitely #5 here… The heart and head can’t get on the same page.
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Indeed #5. After watching the movie”Love of My Life,” I imagined seeing the men I adored in the past and at present all seated in one long table all smiling at me. They all have unique qualities that made me “love” them, yet I just couldn’t say Yes to anyone of them. 😂
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or 6. You are so comfortable on your own that if you have to go for someone that person has to be greater than your comfort level. You are willing to leave all that for someone worth it to test them to see if they can be integrated into that lifestyle. And in today’s time it is getting harder and harder.
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I agree with 6, my life is great, If I can’t find an equal or better why bother?
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