Dream Killers & Doubters

Whatever your dreams or aspirations are whether business, home, family, or self-improvement. There always seems to be someone in the way with an opinion on what you’re trying to achieve. I can personally relate because throughout my path in life I have ran across a number of people who either doubted my dreams and aspirations or simply just didn’t believe in them. It is not really surprising that people may even be close to you squash your dreams on a regular basis. You may not have recognized that dream killers are always around with negative vibes, thoughts, cynical words and opinions. After you encounter with “dream killers” you may look in the mirror, asking yourself can you really achieve your dreams or are you making a mistake. Then your mind might begin to be filled with all types of self-doubt and fear. Though sometimes unintentional and often unaware, many times dream killers have no idea the effect they may have on you. So today I would like to share five ways to overcome dream killers and doubters.

  1. Build a strong support system: Although, everyone is not going to support you. Make it a priority to surround yourself with people that believe in you and will be honest with you.
  2. Don’t Listen:This is a very simple concept just don’t listen when people are negative or try to persuade you not to follow your dreams.
  1. Believe in yourself:Having a strong belief in yourself will help you a lot when a dream killers comes (they will come). You won’t be bothered because you know that you will achieve your goals.
  1. Focus on your vision:Instead of letting other people opinions create negative thoughts in your mind.  Stay focus on your vision by starting to accept that we all fail sometimes. Success is inevitable if you keep learning, growing, and believing in yourself.
  1. Don’t tell everyone your dreams:This is vital because you can avoid some doubters by simply not telling them your dreams. This easy said than done because sometimes you never know who is a dream killer until you tell them your dream.

 

Everyone has had a dream at one point in their lives. Do you remember yours? Share it below and comment how you overcame dream killers and doubters in your life.

 

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About Jay Colby

Some would categorize me as an entrepreneur, life coach, son, friend and all of the above. I’m just another person trying to find my way in this world. Until recently, I was unsure what my path in this life would consist of. Like many others I was between I know what I want to do but not sure if that’s what I’m supposed to do. I am currently finishing my degree in something that has nothing to do with becoming a writer or entrepreneur so automatically it qualifies me to become one right! Follow me as I go through this journey called life to impact and encourage one person at a time.
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74 Responses to Dream Killers & Doubters

  1. Thank you for sharing this post. I like how you mention that the dream killers could be somebody close to you. Personally, I find that the ones who are close have the largest effect on me. The people whom I strive to make proud. I have come to learn that although it can be really tough, sometimes not telling them my dreams, like you said above, until the dream is showing progress and substance is the best way to avoid the self doubt associated with these dream killers. Whether it be my previous dream to win an entrepreneurship competition while in college (I told them after I won 1st place) or my new dream of starting my own group fitness business today.
    Like you say, believing in yourself, knowing and focusing on your vision, and having that support system is priceless when it comes to following your dreams. Thanks again!

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  2. Dreams and goals are great to have but everyone needs a bit of encouragement. We all have that little kid inside of us who wants someone to say “great job!” Yes, we can go toward our goals without anyone encouraging us; however, it makes it much more difficult. I have decided that I do not want to squash the hopes, dreams, goals of others. Instead, I want to be one who encourages them and makes them realize that yes they really can accomplish the goal, the dream they hold dear.

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    • Jay Colby says:

      I agree with you 100% we all need some encouragement sometimes. That’s great because that’s one of the main reasons I started this blog to encourage as many people as possible everyday. Thanks for stopping by!

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  3. Yes! This is awesome. I’m lucky to be in a position where I can give this type of advice. And I do!

    I like your blog. I’ll be following from here on out!

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  4. I have signed up to your blog. Main reason is that there are not enough positive influence’s. You are good and open. Thanks. Continue to share.

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  5. Izzy says:

    This is a very inspirational post! I agree that it’s important to keep negative people at bay. I also think that sometimes, loved ones who are dream killers and doubters are just being negative as a way to protect you- they don’t want you to experience the disappointment that they might have when they were pursuing their dreams. But that shouldn’t stop anyone from going after their goals and aspirations!

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  6. Ruby Gee says:

    Yes Jay!! I’m not sure if I should tell you, lol, totally kidding. I’m on my way to Hollywood!! My dream is to be in major films/tv series but I will be happy as a full time working actress. If its commercials so let it be, I’m open and just love entertaining. I’ve already had my dream killer and he’s now in my past. I believe in myself and know I can do it!! Xo💕

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  8. lghiggins says:

    Amazing how many people can be an expert on someone else’s life!

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  9. braddahr says:

    I agree and I also wonder how the six thinking hats might fit into this.
    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six_Thinking_Hats

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  10. K E Garland says:

    #5 is the one I use Jay. Quite honestly, not many of my family knew I was working on a book, until I was like, “Guess what? My new book is released this week!” I learned early on that there are many people who as soon as you tell them an idea, even, they will try to disparage you. I find that it’s usually because they feel as if they cannot achieve anything. Thanks for another inspirational post.

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  11. callmetrav says:

    I’m so inspired and encouraged by your blog. Thank you.

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  12. Idle Muser says:

    Amazing Jay!
    Very succinctly you showed many of us the way of how to stay away from the dream-killers, through those 5 points.
    I keep my dreams to myself and my family. It’s not that I don’t trust others, but I trust myself the most. 😉

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  14. chubaoyolu says:

    Nice and succinct. Thanks for sharing.

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  15. Eri Hunt says:

    Great advice!!! I totally agree telling everyone about your dream. Its not a good Idea the face expressions and responses are so negative. Somehow the engery really rubs off on you. If your not strong enough to ignore the comments. I’m learning how to deal with negativity and just stay focus . Thanks for sharing!

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  16. Your posts are very uplifting and constructive in the way you lay them out as a plan towards cultivating success.

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  17. # 5 I had to learn the hard way but it was lesson well learned.

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  18. Another good one Jay! Another good one!

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  19. Naftali chirchir says:

    I had a dream to be a writer! Most people could not believe me! I Remember the day J started to write my first book! It was really challenging as I had to overcome the frustration of trying something new and the frustration of overcoming negative critism from my very close friends and relatives; I thank God I had just finished reading Napoleon Hill’s book, “Think and grow rich” and anyone who has read that book can tell how highly motivated I was.
    I never gave up! I aplied ignorance; sometime I knew what they were saying was right but nevertheless! I pressed on and you know what? The combination of a little frustration and determination enabled me to produce a book that most of those who said it is impossible believed that I had copied it!.

    What I learned is that with ignorance! We overcome the begative critism

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  20. prinxy says:

    Great Post Jay.. Lovely

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  21. TipsterPH says:

    Dream killers are fire fighters. They put out the fire that’s burning in you to get your dreams. Thanks for the TIPS Jay!

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  22. A.Dreamer says:

    This is so helpful right now! 💕

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  23. Glad I stumbled on your blog…needed to read this tonight!

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  24. Totally agree with number 5! Life is a great teacher and i’ve learned that its best to exercise wisdom and keep your mouth shut. Let them see the manifestation of your dream, by then its too late 🙂

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  25. Ipuna Black says:

    This is completely true! Very simple tips that aren’t easy to do. I like the vision point. It helps with focus.

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  26. S-Badu says:

    Great post Jay, I’ve had this happen to me time and time again. You just never know who is a dream killer, I am still trying to discipline myself and not share my excitements and dreams anymore. Thanks for this.

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  27. I wanted to be a nurse, I took up Care work and I had people telling me that I wouldn’t be able to handle the job.. I lasted a year in that job and I ended changing my mind on my career of being a nurse because I felt I was too dumb for university and so I found another job that I’m good at so far.. I’m now a Retail Assistant and I want to one day write my own book and blogging helps with that as I can show my readers what I talk about. ❤️

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  28. I like how simple each step is. I know whenever I hear someone talk about being “realistic” or “practical”, I shut them out and don’t pay attention. No one is going to believe in you, like you can believe in you ❤ Nicely done.

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  29. Stefan Lee says:

    Short and to the point, very well explained!

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  30. Ali Grimshaw says:

    No one can kill your dream unless you let them. Great post Jay.

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  31. theglancist says:

    Perfectly written. Thank you for sharing this much needed advice. 😊

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  32. Jess T. says:

    I can relate with rule 5.

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    • Jess T. says:

      What I mean is, it’s important to protect your ideas, especially around people with negative energy or who have a tendency to steal ideas that aren’t their own. It’s also difficult when people come to me for advice but don’t believe in themselves enough to keep trying. That, however, would be another topic! 🙂 neat post

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  33. Nice post!! Thank you!! Sometimes we need to file our dreams away in our heart, keeping them safe from those who don’t understand. Thanks again.

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  34. Very good read Jay!
    I have just started Blogging. 22yr old and own my own public business, I’m blogging day to day to give people an insight to a real entrepreneurs life. The highs and lows! ITs important!

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  35. Cristina says:

    Love the second one and the last tip. It’s very important not to let others drag you down with their negativity.

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  36. rosesareme says:

    I really enjoyed reading your blog. I have been experiencing the same exact thing, and decided to start my own blog to help people with similar problems. I’m new to blogging and could use any advice I can get. I’d really appreciate some insight. Again, I think you made some really great points in your blog, definitely inspiring to those who struggle with these same issues.

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  37. MyPoems says:

    “I can personally relate because throughout my path in life I have ran across a number of people who either doubted my dreams and aspirations or simply just didn’t believe in them. It is not really surprising that people may even be close to you squash your dreams on a regular basis ” – I have come across a similar situation in my life , In fact facing one at the moment . The 5 points you mentioned is something that I need now . Thanks for posting this write up !

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  38. Amazing !👍
    I’m so inspired by your blog. 😊

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  39. Thanks Jay. Tell the world what you want to be. But first, show them. Surrounding self with people that believe in us is the best option.

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  40. Number 3 and 4 are my biggest weapon against any doubt or dream killers. Always believe in yourself while having that focus towards your vision. As long as you have those, you are unstoppable. I lived throughout my life with people doubting me or made me think that my goals and aspirations are impossible to achieve. I even at one point believed these doubts and doubted myself at one point but through hard work and dedication, I may have still failed many times to prove these doubts wrong but I had those key moments where I defied all those doubts and proved them all wrong. I realised that I am more powerful than what I think I am (another tip to overcome doubters especially if you doubt yourself). I still have people who doubt me and some doubters I proved wrong still thinks I can’t reach that potential that they thought I will ever reach but no matter what I always believe in myself and follow that vision.

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