Networking + Share Your Blog

I just want to take this time to thank everyone who reads, subscribers and shares my site. I appreciate all the support and encouragement.I would love to read everyone’s blog, but I don’t always get a chance to read and follow everyone’s blog.

So today I want to offer a networking opportunity and a chance for all bloggers no matter what niche or experience a chance to gain more traffic. Anyone who wants to gain free traffic can participate. All you have to is comment your blog below & I will follow every blog and actually read your content. So if you’re interested just comment your blog’s URL below. Also If you could share and re-blog this post so we can reach as many bloggers as possible!

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8 Myths About College

Myth #1 – It’s better to get good grades than take challenging courses.

When you have even modest success in advanced or accelerated courses, it indicates to a college that you can handle challenging courses – like those you will find in college. A challenging college preparatory program or some advanced placement courses will help you get into more selective colleges.

Myth #2 – The standardized tests (ACT, PSAT, & SAT) are more important than your high school grades.

Colleges know that your performance in high school is a better predictor of college success than the standardized tests. That does not mean that most colleges will ignore your SAT or ACT scores

Myth #3 – I need to decide on my career before I can choose a college.

College is your time to explore. Except in a few specific situations, you can choose a major in your sophomore year and still complete the degree in four years. A surprising number of students discover their ideal field while taking a course they didn’t expect to like. If you’re not ready, don’t let well-meaning friends pressure you into deciding on a major field or a career before you choose a college. Take your time.

Myth #4 – You can’t get into a selective college if you did poorly in 9th or 10th grade.

Colleges look for improvement in performance as a sign that you can and will do the work. In fact, a vast improvement as a junior and senior indicates to a college that you have settled down. However, do not expect to catch up for three poor years in one good semester as a senior.

Myth #5 – If I haven’t heard of a college or university, it can’t be very good.

You may not hear about many of the nation’s finest colleges until you are well into your adult life. Athletics on television is how most colleges get to be known, but many great colleges do not get that kind of exposure. Some of the nation’s finest colleges don’t play big-time athletics. Judge a college on its own merits. Don’t let name recognition determine a good or bad college.

Myth #6 – Colleges need students so it’s easier to be admitted.

Selective private colleges and most state-supported colleges and universities get more qualified applicants than they can possibly accept. While some colleges are having difficulty attracting students, many of these have chosen to get smaller rather than admit unqualified students. Some colleges have lowered their standards, but this also can be a problem for you. The admissions standards might have been lowered, but what a college and its faculty expect of students might not have changed.

Myth #7 – You should go to the most prestigious college to which you are admitted.

You should go to the college that “fits” you best. If it happens to be prestigious, that’s fine. However, fit has to do with how you feel when you are on campus, that matches with how you learn and how the professors teach, along with the academic pressure you can handle. If the college isn’t a good match, you will be unhappy regardless of the prestige.

Myth #8 – Big colleges are best if you haven’t decided on a major field.

Many students think that because there are more courses to choose from, a large college offers greater options for undecided students. However, choices alone should not be the deciding factor. If you are undecided, the best college is one that has core requirements or distribution requirements that ensure you will explore new areas and fields.

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Leaving Your Comfort Zone Behind: Change Your Life

We’ve all heard the same advice to get out of our “comfort zone” to stretch ourselves and try new things. Most people agree with this statement but what do we really know about the comfort zone besides its uncomfortable and we need to get out of it. We’re ruled by our habits. We do things the same old way because it’s comfortable. But the risk in staying firmly inside our comfort zones is that it creates psychological barriers that can lead to real limitations. There are many different scientific explanations of what exactly the comfort zone is, but simply put it is a behavioral space where activities and behaviors fit a certain routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk levels. It provides a state of mental security. You benefit in obvious ways: regular happiness, low anxiety, and reduced stress. On the other hand having a comfort zone mindset can cause complacency in many different areas of your life.

In many cases what keeps many of us from getting everything we want in life and more are the reluctance to change. A lot of times we want to minimize the stress that may be caused by breaking the norm and making changes that may be risky. Sometimes it can be justified because life is stressful enough just living our daily lives. However, we may know in our heart of hearts that the job or relationship is not right for us. We endure them because we fear what is next, or stuck in a fixated pattern based in our past experiences. Whatever it may be anyone can break out of their comfort zone and create positive change. Here are six ways you can break out of your comfort zone and into the greatness you deserve.

1. Knowing & Accepting What’s Outside of Your Comfort Zone:

Simply said what are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure. Once you accept this it is the first step to getting past this anxiety.

2. Do What Scares You Every Day:

Do something every day that scares you. This would be a powerful step this would be to make a conscious effort to take this step. It can open up all possibilities maybe new friendships or new opportunities.

3. Embrace Failure:

Many of us are so afraid of failure, that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams. Begin to treat failure as a lesson that you can learn from.  The next time you fail ask yourself questions like what did I learn from the experience? How can I take that lesson to your next venture to increase my chance of success?

4. Change Your Mindset:

This is a huge step when we change our thoughts we can improve our mindset. This takes mental stamina and discipline. A helpful way to start retraining your mind is by thinking and reading positive messages this helps to create a desire on whom you want to become and say them every day. Eventually these affirmations will become a part of your belief system.

5. Make A Bold Move Towards Your Dreams:

Sometimes we just need to put our best foot forward and take a risk with great risk there is also great reward. For example, many people dream to leave their eight to five job to pursue a hobby that has been a passion of theirs for years. They just need to figure out how to make it happen. The first step is to set reasonable time limits on yourself to reach or pursue certain goals. Once you done this you can start on the road to getting out of your comfort zone.

6. Connect/Network With Other Risk Takers:

This is an very important step if you want to learn or become better at something there is no substitute for simply knowing people who are doing what you want to do and start asking questions and emulating them.


Your comfort zone is neither a good or bad thing. It’s a natural state that most people trend towards. Leaving it means increased risk and anxiety, which can have positive and negative results, but don’t demonize your comfort zone as something holding you back. We all need that head-space where we’re least anxious and stressed so we can process the benefits we get when we leave it. Always remember only courageous people accomplish their dreams. This applies to big dreams, and also to simple everyday dreams. If you enjoyed this post comment below if you have stepped out of your comfort zone and what was the results. Also if you liked this post don’t forget to like and please share!




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Does Money Matter When Dating?

When it comes to money we all know that we need it to survive. Without money we would go without food, shelter, clothes and many other necessary things we need to live a wonderful and abundant life.  However, when it comes to dating money can be problematic either having too little or in some cases having an excessive amount of money.

Should We Ask?

Often times in dating there is a period where we are just getting to know someone and they peek our interest. We have started dating them and we see a future with this person. At this point some may argue that we should then ask “how much money do you make” or a more slick way around the question is “what do you do for a living”. Now asking harmless questions are not a big deal, because we are simply making conversation.  The problem comes into play when we get an answer we don’t like such as “ I’m a fast food worker” or “I’m currently job searching”.

Should We Date someone Outside  Our ‘Tax Bracket’

There are many marriage counselors, life coaches and aficionados of dating would say not to limit our dating prospects by putting a cap on who we can date. Many people have different opinions on this subject a few weeks ago while doing research for my upcoming podcast show I had this discussion with about forty different woman and about twenty different men.  I found their answers quite interesting and thought-provoking the majority of the woman I asked said “they wouldn’t date anyone who made less than them.  This was interesting because it differed from some of the research I’ve done on the particular topic. Men on the other hand matched my research perfectly by all twenty of the men saying they really don’t care how much money their partner makes as long as they are successful.

Does Money Matter?

Now some may make the claim that “money doesn’t matter and we should look on the inside of a person’s heart and not their wallet”. Others may say “Love don’t pay the bills” both statements have some truth to them and in my opinion deserves a middle ground. Saying money doesn’t matter at all is a bit of a stretch, but money being the only factor whether we decide to date someone or not is also problematic.

Final Thoughts

In the end money does matter to a certain extent, but shouldn’t be the determining factor in choosing to date someone or not.  So the question still remains does money matter when dating?  Comment your thought below in the comment section & if you liked this post please share!


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The Debate: Is Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) a Legit Business?

Multi-level marketing better known as MLM was stared in 1945 by the California Vitamin Company which became Nutrilite which is now owned by Amway. Today there are tons of different MLM programs for just about every kind of product or service, including nutritional supplements, household products, cosmetics, diets, telecommunication services. Individual MLM programs are often under scrutiny because many experts and consumers believe them to be a pyramid schemes.

We’ve all received those offers from friends or random people who participate in MLMs to “make money in your spare time” “Control your own time and freedom”, “own your own business” etc.  Many of these offers come through our Facebook and Instagram feeds daily and for some of us may even caught our attention once or twice. Then we might start to ponder is this MLM a legit way of making money?

Pros of MLM

  1. Small amount of risk – For many of us who don’t have a lot of capital to risk when it comes to the “risk factor” MLM is one of the lowest risk we could take. Rather than in a traditional brick and mortal business, the startup cost can be quite high. Therefore, deterring many people away from starting their own business. However, in a MLM style business with a couple of hundred dollars, it is possible to get started with a company of your choice, marketing products that you consume already.


  1. Residual income – Now for majority of Americans trying to figure out how to create residual income is always something near and dear to our hearts. Having money that comes every month on a certain day brings the financial security many of us desire. However, discovering ways to attain residual income is better said than done. But with MLM it gives you the opportunity to enjoy to enjoy residual income. After the initial effort of building your team is completed, you can enjoy the residual part of that business relationship.


  1. The income potential – While working in a specific industry there is usually a cap on how much you can make, but with MLM there is no cap on how much money you can generate.

Cons of MLM

To start, MLM often attempts to mask itself under other names in hopes that its bad reputation is not noticed. That’s why it’s often referred to “Network Marketing”, “Direct Sales”, or even “Community Commerce.” But MLM is the only term that explicitly states the “levels” that is indicative of what it truly is.  With that out of the way, here are some cons of MLM.

  1. Fee to “get your business started” – Most MLM business models are usually based around selling products. Therefore, the up-front fees should be unnecessary and pointless.


  1. Purchases encouraged as “investment” – Often times MLM companies want you to think that making purchases for products within the company will advance your status, or grow your business, more than satisfy sales.


  1. High income projections – Many companies love emphasizing how much you will make, but rarely mention how you are going to make it. MLM opportunities have proven historically to be, at best, a little better than a side income for most people.


  1. Money from recruiting – Many MLM business models call for us to recruit another distributor than a new customer. Therefore, their products are not what is driving the company it’s the recruitment. A company that is filled up with people but no products is still just a group of people, not a thriving company.


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3 Steps To Start A Social Media Marketing Plan

For bloggers, entrepreneurs or small business owners having a social media presence is vital for long-term success. However, creating a social media strategy from scratch can be a tedious process especially if you’re not social media savvy. Here are four easy steps to create a social media marketing plan from scratch.

Step 1: Choose your social networks

• Choose the social networks that best fit your strategy and the goals you want to achieve on social media.
• Audience – Where does your potential readers or customers hang out?
• Time – How much time can you dedicate to a social network? Plan on at least an hour or two per day per social network, at least at the start. (You can use tools like Hootsuite to schedule post ahead of time)

*If you already have a social presence your first step should be to audit your social media accounts.

A few areas to consider when auditing your social media presence are:

• Which networks are you currently active on?
• Are your networks optimized (photo and cover images, bio, URL, etc.)
• Which networks are currently bringing you the most value?
• How do your profiles compare to your competitors’ profiles?
• Are you utilizing the analytics on your social media accounts?

Step 2: Define your target audience

“If you have more money than brains you should focus on outbound marketing. If you have more brains than money, you should focus on inbound marketing.” Guy Kawasaki

To define your target audience you will want to be as specific as possible with this part. For example, if you identify your target market as new entrepreneurs in the United States, between 25 – 40 years of age, primarily uses Facebook and Twitter and have been in business for less than five years. The more specific you can be with defining your audience the better success you will have.

If you’re having a tough time defining your target audience answering the following questions:

• What age or demographic is your target audience?
• What is your target audience located?
• How much income does your audience make per year?
• What social media platforms does your audience use the most?

Step 3: Set specific goals

How will you determine if your social media marketing efforts are successful?

A few metrics to consider measuring are:

• Conversion Rate
• Time Spent on Website
• Reach
• Brand Mentions
• Sentiment
• Total Shares

*Most social media sites has analytics where you can find these metrics.

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4 Ways To Build a Team With No Money

For any business owner or entrepreneur building a team can be one of the most challenging things we have to do when we first start. Whether it’s a start-up or a venture that you were doing alone. Building the right team can make or break your business. This process can be quite daunting especially if don’t have the resources to pay employees or freelancers.

Behind every successful business is an amazing team. Founders and CEOs often receive all the glory, but if you look closely, there is always a team behind them that made success possible. Many times, we only hear about the “Boss”. but Steve Jobs had Steve Wozniak and Mike Markulla. Bill Gates had Paul Allen and Gordon Letwin. Mark Zuckerberg had Dustin Moskovitz, Eduardo Saverin and Sean Parker. There’s no question that these billionaires are brilliant, but their team played a huge part in their success.

Here are four ways to build a team, even if you have NO MONEY to pay employees or freelancers.

  1. Build a team that fits your needs – Finding people who have skills that can provide value to your business. Finding people who have skills in areas that might not be your strong point. For example, let’s say you aren’t the most tech-savvy person. Therefore, finding a team member who has those technical skills is vital to making sure your business has an online presence.


  1. Exchange services – This can be so important especially when you’re bootstrapping a start-up company and don’t have the resources to hire staff. This “barter” system can make huge difference in getting your business to the next level. For example, you may be starting an accounting business, and you need a logo and some nice graphics to post on social media. You can exchange your account skills to help a graphic designer who may need help with his or her business plan or taxes for their business.


  1. Recruit family, friends and current/former colleagues – Simply put sometimes we have no choice, but to ask the people we know. As a wise woman once told me “be nice and cordial to everyone even people you don’t like… you never know who you might need a favor from in the future.” Asking the people, we have a personal relationship can help to grow our business especially while we’re still in the start-up phase.


  1. Find people who believe in you – With in any business there should be a plan in place and a vision of where the business is working towards. Therefore, if you’re looking for people to join your team, and you cannot offer monetary compensation. You have to make them believe in whatever your vision is. A mentor of mine once told me “You cannot consider yourself a leader unless someone actually follows you.” Although convince someone to join your team in the beginning can difficult it is not impossible. I’ll explain a couple of methods you can find people to join your team.
  • Look for interns, hiring interns sounds like a great and inexpensive way to build your team. However, always remember when hiring interns, you must highlight “What’s in it for me” (WIIFM). After all, having doing nothing but mindless data entry for a potentially defunct startup will be worthless on a resume a year from now. Your job description needs to sell the potential candidate, that will not only work for a great company, but they will actually learn something that can help them in their future career endeavors.


  • LinkedIn can be a great resource for any entrepreneur looking to make great connections and also a great place to find and recruit a team. There are over 450 million users on LinkedIn so there are plenty of people you can reach out to potential join your team.

Final Thoughts

In the end, if you don’t have a lot of resources building a team can be difficult. However, not impossible if you truly believe in your business and have the fortitude to not give up when you face obstacles throughout your entrepreneurial journey.  What you may lack in resources or money you can replace with determination and the unwavering vision for your business. A lack of resources is no excuse for a lack of success. What you really need is resourcefulness and the ability to inspire others to join you in your mission.

What methods or steps did you take to build your team? Comment below and if you liked this article please share!

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3 Signs That Your Relationship is Toxic

One of the hardest things for anyone in a relationship to admit is that their relationship toxic and may need to end. For many of us when we enter a relationship, we’re usually have on rose-colored glasses and become infatuated with our partner. Often times we only focus on our partners good qualities and don’t pay attention to their faults. Therefore, when friends and family tell us what they deem to be some negative qualities and predict the outcome of our relationships we tend to be clueless.  Here are three signs that it might be time to end your relationship.

  1. They don’t allow you to have ‘Personal Time’ – A controlling partner initially feels like a loving partner. Oh, their jealous when you’re out with single people? Of course, they are. Although this can seem like a positive at first a controlling partner isn’t compatible to having a healthy relationship. Relationships are not about monitoring another person, they are about giving complete freedom and seeing that each other’s decisions are aligned. Every person has their own personal needs and the best relationships are ones in which partners fulfill each other’s most important needs. If you find your partner is controlling what you post on social media, who you hang out with or how you dress. Should be taken as a BIG RED FLAG.


  1. Prioritize Your Partner’s Wants & Needs – Early in a relationship, making your partner a priority seems like the right things to do. However, in some cases we can lose ourselves and begin to compromise who we’re as person. Compromises are necessary when two people enter into a relationship, and some disproportion in whose needs are being met more than the other’s is bound to happen. Nevertheless, if you’re constantly expected to rearrange your life around your significant other, and you don’t expect the same flexibility from them, you should take a closer look at why that is happening.


  1. 80/20 Ratio is Off – According to one of the most well-known relationship researchers, John Gottman couples should have at least 80% positive interactions. He states the other 20% will most likely not get resolved. Instead of focusing on conflict, the goal is to enhance the 80%. If you find yourself in a relationship with a ratio slanted towards the negative, it may not be the healthiest.

Final Thoughts

In the end life is too short to be in a relationship that is toxic and causing you mental or physical harm. Our well-being is intricately connected the relationships i.e. family, friends, significant other. Every relationship experiences tough times and it’s worth working on issues to see if it will improve. But when your happiness and well-being are affected for a significant amount of time is not helping to make things better. Therefore, it may be time to go.

Have you ever been in a toxic relationship before? What was the key signs you were in a toxic or negative relationship?

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Dream Killers & Doubters

Whatever your dreams or aspirations are whether business, home, family, or self-improvement. There always seems to be someone in the way with an opinion on what you’re trying to achieve. I can personally relate because throughout my path in life I have ran across a number of people who either doubted my dreams and aspirations or simply just didn’t believe in them. It is not really surprising that people may even be close to you squash your dreams on a regular basis. You may not have recognized that dream killers are always around with negative vibes, thoughts, cynical words and opinions. After you encounter with “dream killers” you may look in the mirror, asking yourself can you really achieve your dreams or are you making a mistake. Then your mind might begin to be filled with all types of self-doubt and fear. Though sometimes unintentional and often unaware, many times dream killers have no idea the effect they may have on you. So today I would like to share five ways to overcome dream killers and doubters.

  1. Build a strong support system: Although, everyone is not going to support you. Make it a priority to surround yourself with people that believe in you and will be honest with you.
  2. Don’t Listen:This is a very simple concept just don’t listen when people are negative or try to persuade you not to follow your dreams.
  1. Believe in yourself:Having a strong belief in yourself will help you a lot when a dream killers comes (they will come). You won’t be bothered because you know that you will achieve your goals.
  1. Focus on your vision:Instead of letting other people opinions create negative thoughts in your mind.  Stay focus on your vision by starting to accept that we all fail sometimes. Success is inevitable if you keep learning, growing, and believing in yourself.
  1. Don’t tell everyone your dreams:This is vital because you can avoid some doubters by simply not telling them your dreams. This easy said than done because sometimes you never know who is a dream killer until you tell them your dream.


Everyone has had a dream at one point in their lives. Do you remember yours? Share it below and comment how you overcame dream killers and doubters in your life.


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Trust The Process

“Trust the Process”

This quote became famous from a former Philadelphia 76ers executive Sam Hinkie who stated “trust the process”. Even though this thought process eventually lead to Hinkie being fired we can learn a lot from his sentiment.  In our daily lives many times we can become impatient with the process it takes to make our dreams or goals a reality. This is prevalent in today’s microwave society where we want everything in five minutes or less. This mindset can make trusting the process inconceivable in our minds. Whether it’s going after our dreams, trying to lose a few pounds or making life changes. We all have to trust the process we lessen the likelihood we will achieve anything meaningful.

Have Faith in the Unseen

This goes back to the underlying thought that when we trust in something we automatically have faith. To have faith is to have deep sense of trust in what cannot be seen. Proof or confirmation is not needed to have faith in the process. Rather you’re religious or not having faith is essential to making our goals reality.  To trust the process, completely is not need to know what is unfolding or why, but to simply have the belief that what you’re doing is ultimately going to work. Regardless of the time, challenges or obstacle’s we must overcome to achieve our success.

Believe in the Process

Without putting in the time, effort and self-belief it is downright impossible to accomplish our goals. Consequently we have to believe in whatever we’re doing no matter what circumstances unfolded in our lives. This concept is better said than done but once we  realize that the journey we’re own is predestined for success.

Final Thoughts

To trust the process means to know and have faith that there is a divine plan moving through you and your life. In the end when you trust the process of life, you connect with a sense of oneness, serendipity and unconditional love. This makes our path clear because we have trust in where our life is heading.

  “Keep your head up. If you keep grinding & give your max effort like this all the time. There’s NO DOUBT you will succeed”

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